The guy I’ve been talking to for like six months and hung out with doesn’t even know if we are just friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

He can’t even define what we have going on between us? What does this usually mean? I asked him and he said he doesn’t really know what to call us But he does really like me I said if we’re just friends with benefits, then that’s fine but I just want to know so I can set my boundaries up

[Blunky]

It probably means he's caught feelings for you and wants to be more.

[Asker]

Stop I’m being serious 😩

[Blunky]

What? I'm being serious too lol. If he can't bring himself to say you're just beneficial friends, he definitely wants it to be more but doesn't know how to go about it.

[Asker]

He said I’m more than just a friend 🙄 don’t get me wrong. I would love more, but you can’t even just tell me or define what we are. I told him I’m OK with whatever.

[spartan55]

@blunky
There is zero he 'caught feelings' stop.

[spartan55]

@asker
You told him you are 'okay with whatever'. 🙄 How are expecting to get what you want from a relationship when you can't even be honest about it?

[Blunky]

@spartan55 Ok? Developing romantic feelings for someone you were platonic friends with isn't a thing?

[Asker]

@blunky exactly!

[spartan55]

SHE'S NOT BEING HONEST. Hello?

[Blunky]

Seems reading comprehension has gone out the window for you as you've aged. She wants him to define what HE thinks their relationship is and is asking about HIS behavior. Sounds like she wants to avoid getting used which is what the boundaries talk is about, not keeping him at arms length. She said she's actually interested in it being more but HIS behavior is what she's confused about. Don't project your insecurity into every interaction.

[spartan55]

@blunky
Who tf are you talking to junior?
If she was SO worried about getting used she never should have agreed to friends with benefits in the first place. She can ask him 'what are we' all she wants. Nothing is changing.

[spartan55]

It's kind of sad how little you know about this stuff.

[Asker]

He just said he doesn’t know where we stand. He can’t even define if we were just friends with benefits, friends, or seeing where things go. But he did say I’m more than just a friend. That’s where I’m saying he doesn’t even know what to define us as.

[Asker]

If we are friends with benefits, cool, if we are just friends cool, if we’re just seeing where things go cool. But he can’t even tell me which one it is. That’s what I’m talking about. So that’s what I mean about setting boundaries. I just wouldn’t answer so I can put it in stone. I’m pretty sure I can still set boundaries at this point.

[Blunky]

@spartan55 It's hilarious how you think pathetic insults like that mean anything. You really think you have relationships figured out to a T "grandpa"? She can be friends with benefits with whoever she pleases. Sorry you never got to be anyone's choice to not even have that figured out. Seems you have a vendetta against women for some reason, probably a closet case's reason. Seriously dude, acting like that at your age is beyond pathetic. You don't know the guy's motives and clearly you don't even understand this person's after reading everything here. Guess I hit a nerve?

Asker, it's best not to engage with idiots like this who think in absolutes. You can explain as much as you want, it goes in one ear and out the other with clowns like this because all that matters is his own sad perspective.

[spartan55]

I know I have them more figured out than you. That isn't setting the bar too high though. Happy hunting dipshit.

[spartan55]

'My sad perspective'... if you only knew

[Blunky]

Seems all you've figured out are simple one liners. Too tired to do some more projecting after you started shit? It's ok. I know you are dying to get the last word in. Really doesn't bother me to reply just to push your dusty buttons.

[spartan55]

That's great, anything else? Don't forget to take the trash out tonight.

[Blunky]

That all you have to add? What happened to your self proclaiming bullshit? Come on now, your ego can't be that fragile.

[spartan55]

Little late for the boundaries talk.🤦

[Asker]

He can’t even tell me if he wants to keep it that way.

[spartan55]

You've been giving him six months of free 🥧 pie. Why would he give that up?