I thought we were dating, but he apparently doesn't... is this just friends with benefits?

ZombieWhisperer
So it's a strange story, but I started hanging out with a guy who I had flirted with from across the street (I would be at the bus stop after work, and he works across the street) for over a year, and things progressed fairly quickly. We talked for little bit on Facebook, then started texting, then hung out.

The first handful of hangouts were innocent and just 'getting to know you' type stuff.

He grabbed my hand on the 3rd time hanging out, but nothing was said. Now, fast forward a month. We talk every day, I'm over at his house quite a lot, (he's also 27, and I'll be 20 next month. It seems like a lot, but I've always dated older, because most men my age are still quite immature) and we have sex fairly often.

He calls me 'baby', 'beautiful', all that jazz. We go out on dinner dates at least once a week, usually more. He's cooked me meals, he's gotten me coffee when I'm at work...

So basically it's like we're dating, right?

Wrong.

It's like the 'r word' is a taboo in our friendship/thing. I got hit on by a creepy guy the other day, and quickly told him "I don't think my boyfriend would like that" in response to something he said, but I didn't even think of Behn as my boyfriend.

I told him about the incident, and said, "I didn't mean to freak you out by the boyfriend thing; I just needed to tell the guy something that would get him off my back", and he responded with, "You can "use" me as your boyfriend whenever you like, doll" with a winky face.

That kind of crushed me...it was weird. It felt like everything was about the fact that we're intimate with each other.

And he calls me his friend.

It's just weird. He doesn't refer to me as his girlfriend, and rightly so, because we aren't in a relationship.

I'm basically lost.

I have no idea what to think; what to feel.

However, I'm scared of pushing him away if I bring this up to him, because I don't want him to think I'm some crazy girl who needs the label to be with a guy.

But I'm falling for this guy. Of course I am! He treats me like a princess, and basically like I'm his special lady.

I'm beyond confused, and I'm scared of getting hurt. I don't typically let men into my life because of past stuff I've gone through, but I really like him.

Sorry this was so long! Thank you for reading, and PLEASE give me some insight into what this could possibly be. Because I'm lost.

-G
I thought we were dating, but he apparently doesn't... is this just friends with benefits?
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