We've been dating for 3m (he's my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend) and I just found out a week ago that he showers with only water apparently every other day. That though doesn't wanna live my thoughts at all. He is 28 and he told me that he thought that only girls use shower gels. I was shocked by that statement. He also doesn't use shampoo (he said very very rarely but I don't think this is too bad) and only washes hands with soap after number 2 and before eating, otherwise he only uses water to wash hands. I told him that this is really bothering me, told him that this is a deal breaker for me on a same level he told me it would be a deal breaker if I got fat. He said that that's not the same, but it is to me. He didn't care because thats how he is and he lived like that his whole life, he sais that he's very clean and even more than most other man. I once cried in front of him that it bothers me and I feel like he didn't care that it pains me. I feel like he doesn't want to fight for me. I tried to talk about it to fix whats bothersome but he said that he is done with that conversation and it will be finished when I am. I never notised that he is stinky but after I found out I kinda do (I'm not sure if he's really or do I feel that way only because I know). But its really bad if I would never do any sex stuff with a boy that doesn't clean properly and I think if not for else this would kill this relationship. I don't know what to do because I don't think I would ever feel clean again if I were to live with him in the future but I really like him and I thought he was the one. He's out of country now for 2 weeks and I'm supposed to go live at his appartement for a week. I don't even know how to text him knowing that something isn't cool with me, he has crazy girl standards but why should I not have any. I don't wanna break up because of it but what else could I do?
What should I do about my boyfriend who refuses to use shower gel to shower?
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