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Basically I have never been to close to my parents and just looking at my Dad makes me angry but what I am asking is how I can accept them and not hate them. But first ill explain why I hate them

1) They don't care about themselves / each other
they are both fat (not to the level of obesity but VERY unfit) and they both know how and why they need to fix their fitness but don't bother to do it. They also complain about each other heaps to me and refuse to see that the others actions is partially their fault.

2) They are two quick to judge others
what i mean by this is that they are a bit racist and they cannot see things from others perspectives eg if someone has anger issues they don't think "i wonder why"

3) They are naive
We all know the classic cover up "im fine" and people use it to cover up them feeling horrible but my parents didn't even notice that when I was getting bullied for years on end and only realized 3 years later when I told them. When I asked them "what would you say if I got in a fight?" they eventually got me to tell them that it looked like there was going to be a fight between one of my f friends in year 7 and a guy in year 10 and me wanting to protect him and they then pressured me to go to the dean (year coordinator) this lead to my friends eventually finding me out and pushing me out of their circle over time they also decided to tell a friends Mum about it when they KNEW I didn't want anyone to know I had "snitched" to attempt to protect a friend which in the end it did

Thanks for reading the long post but is it okay for me to hate my parents and if it inst how can I stop?