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I know im not over thinking stuff but me & my ex dated 2 years ago. we only went on 5 dates but i know apparently he was in love with me & i really loved him too so much & cared. We didn't work out it was long distance relationship but everytime i tried to get back with him he would play games & never took me seriously. He would ignore me, make me feel dead & he knew he hurt me but kept doing it again, he would say sorry but break his promise. i wouldn't hear from him for 3 mths first then he will come back for abit then be gone for another 4 mths. when i was depressed, hurt he would act happy & distant, ignore me, make me feel like im not worth it & rub other girls in my face. I never ignored him before i was always respectful so he did it first. He played mind games. Also on fb he would disrespect women calling them bitches/hoes i knew he meant me as well. He never really thanked me for anything i did for him & just lied.

So when i had enough & was really done with his bs, manipulations he would beg me several times to take him back. i almost did but my parents, friends were all pissed off & told me not too. it can get worse & he sounds abusive. I knew they were right for once because i had a bad feeling he would hurt me again & break promises so i decided not too. He even said how he would meet my parents & talk to him. Then he would look for other girls & if they dont work out he thinks he has control of me still. so when i told him we both tried to work it out but its not working, no matter how hard it is we need to move on. he started to creep me out. this was last year in April & he said if he lost me he would do something crazy go to jail, hospital, etc. he would get into fights with guys & show pics of his bloody fists on fb to show off.

i lost all my trust in him. what i noticed is he got his 2 friends to keep talking to me, harassing me, seeing whats new? if they feel i have a new crush on a guy & am happy they keep msging me.

As known, in a relationship there are certain individuals that use sex as a weapon against the opposite gender. I've heard on talk shows about how some got manipulated into giving their partners his/her proof of love. Which one sucks the most?

1) Man pressuring his girlfriend into sex (she might be a virgin or might not) and saying something like ''If you love me, you would do it with me''

2) Woman withholds sex and wants it or it can be a virgin girl purposely using that as a way to get a man to marry her. Then she tells him ''If you love me, you would wait for me.''

Ladies only, sorry guys. There's an option for you if you want to see the answers.

Feel free to answer Anonymously. This is a quest for the honest truth.

The question: Do you, as a female play games ON PURPOSE in order to get what you want? "Games" includes:

- Manipulation

- Dishonesty (a common example is denying the relationship in public)

- Coercion

- Playing dumb/innocent

- Playing hard to get

- Acting uninterested (when you are)

- etc

REGARDLESS OF THE REASON why you do it, do you (ladies) do these things consciously?