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When you reveal the truth to this world
To the people, you care about.
But everybody would rather live a distorted fantasy
under the veil of an illusion
of they think the world should be.
Instead of what it is
This is the cause of their suffering
and they cannot see it.
You try to use logic, analogies, examples whatever it takes
to show them reality
Just because you care
Expecting nothing in return
So that they can stop this cycle.
This cycle of suffering.
Then you realized people react emotionally before they think.
Every single time.
Then you realize this to be human nature.
You go against it, you get fucked.
They'll agree with what you said
but do nothing
Then sometimes you'll get outcasted,
people think your ideas are weird,
fuck you off
Until they need you to help them again.
Speak some common sense into them again after some sad event
It's worst when it's a group
they all think you're the villain
because of your "radical" views.
Then why do they all keep coming back
and calling for you
So how can you help them?
Sugarcoated,
tell them everything is going to be okay and listen
LOL
But that doesn't do anything in the long run.
Just a short term solution.
They feel good for a few days or weeks
then step back into this cycle of endless suffering
Everyone seems to be addicted to this familiarity
The familiarity of self-destruction
They can't escape it
They truly hate change.
They can't change
And it brings tears to your eyes to see
But they ask you to help them change...
and you can't say no
you see people stuck in toxic relationships,
addiction issues,
self-hate
Sadness
pain,
self-torture.
eternal suffering
etc
And there's nothing you can do about it.
Maybe I'm doing it wrong...

This site rarely has questions about alcohol and drug addiction in relationships but it is an important issue. It is an ugly issue to discuss. I'll start the conversation.

My ex-wife became a prescription pill addict during our marriage. She was diagnosed with MS and she received too many medications for pain. When she was taking pills on a regular basis, she wasn't employed, she didn't work around our home, and she spent much time sleeping. When she was awake, she was irritable and disagreeable. There was no joy in my life! She was a prisoner to her drugs but I felt that I, too, had been taken captive. Divorce freed me from the bonds of her disease and life is much better now.

Alcoholics and drug addicts will rarely admit that they are addicts. Quite often, you may hear, "I can't be an alcoholic because I get up and go to work every day!" Not true! A person is an alcoholic if they do not control their drinking and, as a result, their work, or family or social interactions are significantly affected. If their drinking causes frequent arguments in your home, they are probably an alcoholic, regardless of whether they admit it. The same definition applies to drug addiction.

Have you been involved with an alcoholic or drug addict? If it was an ex, was that a significant factor in your breakup? Did you make efforts to get them into treatment before the relationship ended? Were they ever receptive to your efforts to help them? Did their use of alcohol or drugs influence you to use or to use more than previously?