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I've been working full time for a long time and have a good savings account. Since being with my boyfriend for four years I've spent at least $5000 on things he wants like for example: on his 25th birthday I bought him a PS4 and gave him $800 spending money for himself. Ok that's my present because I love him.
But now i see he has a spending problem (alright maybe it's my fault) all he does is drink alcohol 24/7 it's like... Relax

He keeps asking me for more money to buy him a new cupboard but I refuse to give it to him unless he learns the value of the dollar. He says I'm too harsh.

He doesn't work or drive and mooches off me and his other family members. His grandmother even said to me stop giving yur bf money he doesn't deserve it

How can I fix this? Or should I leave him because he's a selfish lazy alcoholic?

I had an ex, we were together for 1.5 years, the .5 long distance because I moved to another country.

I recently got close with one of his friends - I've know the guy from my ex, and he's a really good guy. We share the same values, and he has the characteristics I want in a boyfriend (honesty, humor, etc.)

We got really close really quick, even though we were long distance. We chatted all day, snap chatted, and Skyped (up to an hour). He said things like "You're beautiful" and "You make me happy too" and made plans for us to go somewhere when we got back, wherever I wanted, anytime I wanted.

Suddenly he tells me that we can't chat anymore, because he's busy for a national exam coming up, we're long distance, and my ex.

I asked him about how he felt about us and he said to me "I like you, but as a friend, not a girlfriend. I'm so so sorry if I've seemed like I'm playing with you. I'm telling you while we haven't gone too far. I'm confused, it's my fault. I know your ex isn't good for you, but at the moment, I'm not good for you either, I can't care for others and we're long distance. I really want us to be friends and not enemies" but he also said "I've never been this close with a girl, and I've never felt this comfortable with a girl"

I sent him a birthday present that's still on the way from when we were close.
I made him a digital portrait, which he made his profile picture and then his sister and her friend commented saying "wink wink you know that i know" and he told his sister "why did you tell?" my ex also commented saying "hey your girlfriend is looking for you" and he coldly brushed him off (he doesn't have girlfriend)

We chat sometimes, usually I initiate but he has too, he opens up about his day & feelings, but it's rarer and it's cut off suddenly and hot and cold, but we've just made plans to have lunch together and to have him teach me how to play the ukulele.

I don't get how he feels - please help me. Sorry for the long post!