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Often I would simply sit next to girls I was attracted to, but it would sometimes work out and often times not. Why?

Many times they would go after specific guys in the center of social life on campus, or at least within the social sphere of the class specifically.

So here’s a radical thought: befriend and approach those men in the center of the social sphere instead of women directly, then get access to social events those women will attend with or without you —> then approach those same women you may have classes with.

This seems more effective because of social proof of mutual friend groups. Instead of being a random guy who sat next to her in class.

I’m not saying the way I did it before doesn’t work, but I am saying I think it’s less effective, ultimately. It’s an uphill road for sure.

I could get away with it when I was younger, but now I think I stand out a little bit more for being slightly older than before which adds to the oddity just enough to make it less effective. Especially since college revolves so heavily on social reputation and social life generally.

It’s not the same as being out in the world after class or on the weekend at outside venues.

True or false?

I tried it out today. I introduced myself to the guy who is likely to have access to social events rather than the few women I felt attracted to — though I did introduce myself to one who sat near to me. I have arrested social development in many ways, so I’m literally experimenting on myself in real time seeing how things unfold when I do X or Y thing.