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Bad boy definition: A young man who has many characteristics of a naughty boy: he's independent and willful; he does what he wants when he wants; he doesn't follow trends, they follow him; he often looks scruffy, but hip; he's not looking for trouble, but there's a sense of danger about him. For these reasons and more, he's irresistible to women. He's a heartbreaker with five o'clock shadow.

Last time I dated a guy. He acted nice to get a date with me. But I felt the sense of danger and all the things they mention in the definition above when I met him twice. Thats when I ran and declined to see him again. I don’t understand why they label all girls as desperately wanting a bad boy. I met a few and they actually make me cringe. They try to convince you to do things you don’t want to. Or slowly override your boundaries to get what they want from you. There is nothing appealing about a jerk or future sophisticated sociopath.

I find myself often offended by the million YouTube videos and articles on the internet that are brainwashing boys and man into becoming a bad boy (jerk) to get a girl because that’s what women want. I completely disagree.

My opinion is if you fall on a woman like me and act like a jerk. I will leave on the spot and I don’t stick around to get my boundaries eroded. Either you respect me or you can F*ck off (sorry for the language)

Are there anyone else that thinks this bad boy attitude thing is complete rubbish and counterproductive for social norms?

I know we all do but I’m obsessed with it. I’m always thinking on how I look, always checking me out, always retouching my makeup and thinking (I have pretty bad dark circles so im always thinking of it) I can’t live my house if I don’t have at least concelear and mascara (my makeup is simple and natural but the fact that I retouch it every time makes it worst)
When I was like 11, 12, 14 and 13 people used to make fun of my appearance and used to tell me horrible things like you are a monster, you are horrible, you should kill yourself, you are fake (prettier in photos that in person) guys never liked me always said I was ugly and if any guy liked me they woud tell him like what do you see in that girl? I was always envy of the prettiest girl in my school, all the people talked about how beautiful and perfect she was, man and woman, because of that people treated her so well.
Now I’m 18 and I always think about how I look and now that I look better I always want people to tell me that I’m beautiful, I want boys to like me. Im a nice person, I treat everyone as equals and I never judge people’s appearance because I don’t want them to feel the way I felt... I’m getting crazy what can I do? I want to be a better person, I’ve lost friends because they say I’m always retouching my makeup and looking in my phone mirror.. I can hold up a pretty interesting conversation and be a good friend but I want to over this obsession. I’m unhappy of the way I look...