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This question is aimed at anyone currently in a committed relationship or if you have been in a committed relationship.

Here is the scenario, try to really imagine yourself in it: You and your partner have been together almost a year, there has been an occasion where they kept a secret from you which had been negatively impacting the relationship as a whole to the point you break up but then a month later you manage to talk and get back together. From this point on they are fully aware that you expect full transparency and honesty and no keeping things from each other, it's agreed upon.

Now 2 mths later they decide to tell you that they would like to make some German friends that live in their city. The reasons so they have someone to speak the language with to keep themselves fluent and the other reason so that their children can also have some German kiddy friends. All very understandable. You support that.

They then tell you they made a friend of the opposite sex who has children and they are on each others Facebook and have been messaging the last day or two. Your partner wants to meet up with them and continue to get to know them. You are mature and handle the situation like an adult and voice a few concerns about establishing boundaries but everything is good.

Later that night you decide to check out this German Facebook group out of curiosity and you find your partner has entered into a conversation with another member of the opposite sex and they are in the process of organising a meet-up for the very next day..

You have been chatting with your partner since they spoke to the potential friend and no mention of any of it at all. It's obvious you have been kept in the dark on this one and definitely not included.

How would you honestly feel? I want feedback too.

I told him I'm starting to have feelings and thoughts I shouldn't, that I felt this wasn't a friendship anymore, that I'll always want the best for him and that I love him (as a friend, even though I have romantic feelings for him)

He answered: koala bear, I never want you feeling like that, I mever want you to feel bad, I didn't expect you would tell me this, you know I get worried and I get uncomfortable talking about this... LET'S TAKE THINGS SLOW, AND EVEN STOP HAVING SEX, WE CAN STILL TALK AND HAVE CONVERSATIONS FROM TIME TO TIME. I never ever want you to be unhappy.

We've known each other for almost 4 years, we used to date at the beginning but both of us weren't ready.

At the beginning of last year, things started to change.
-he became more "lovey dovey"
-said he gets nervous around me
-bought me gifts
-texted me while he was out of the country
-didn't wanted me to leave
-accepted he was jealous that I dated other guys


But for the last months of 2017, he changed more
-he has opened up to me ENTIRELY (just not how he feels about me)
-accepted he had feelings for me at the beginning (which I think and feel he still has)
-says we have a connection
-said he wanted to change and he looked for help (as in therapy for the issues he has)
-says I'm the only one he can talk to
-says I know who and how he is and that he has surrendered to me
-asked if my dad knew about us being "VERY good friends" (he met him at the beginning and my dad didn't approved of him and told him, I belive he was looking for reassurance for that if my dad knew we were friends it was a greenlight)
-sais he's thought about a relationship but gets nervous and backsoff (didn't say with me, but I felt he was talking about us)