In response to: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/social-relationships/a51126-the-lgbtq-community-is-struggling-with-unity-needs-to-fix-it-fast
I couldn't read this without shaking my head. Keep in mind this is not a homophobic Take. I'm bisexual myself. Being bisexual shouldn't justify this kind of thing because even if I was straight, this wouldn't be homophobic. But that's not how society works yet. This Take is inspired by many opinions on the last one. Here we gooo.
1. Hypocrisy
(or the noun for being hypocritical)
This group wants to be identified as a separate community, yet they also want be treated as if they are no different from anyone else. LGBT can't be mainstream and a subculture at the same time.
2. Why does the LGBT Community Have to be any Different?
Why should there be more unity expected in the LGBT community than any other? It illogical not to expect to find racism and sexism among LGBT people, because it is so common among straight people and society in general. This idea that all underrepresented, oppressed people stand together against society is bullshit. Exit polling showed the highest rates in favour of California's Prop. 8, passed several years ago to ban gay marriage and since overturned, was among Latino and black voters.
3. This 'Unity' Makes Little Sense
This struggle with unity is understandable to me because all they all have in common is a sense of variety. This also distances the LGBT community from the rest of the heterosexual society, which had obviously been there before. Whether I support or oppose the LGBTQ+ community is irrelevant because as it stands, you could hardly call it a community worth listening to due to its glaring issues within itself. It can't even unite without it squabbling over things that shouldn't be an issue when you consider that the movement claims to be very 'inclusive' and/or 'tolerable'. Everyone is different in a community but the community is supposed to unite people through rules for coexistence, if rules are not enough anymore then it is normal for a split to happen.
4. Trying to Unite Everyone Together is Impossible
Trying to unite the LGBT community together is an impossible task, as being LGBT is just a small part of who you are. You may be pansexual, but also a musician, nerd, artist, or swimmer. Stop trying to group everybody based on such a small thing of who they are because it is just impossible. Instead, it is better to start seeing each person as an individual, and not as part of a group.
There is no clearly defined motive and goal because it tries so hard to include everything while failing to account for possibilities of opposition within core values. There is a reason why 'Huge' communities often have factions or sects (I mean look at religion and Governments for example) and those factions and/or sects often screw over the community in more ways than one can truly know.
This unity is a utopian ideal. No matter what group you pick there will always be differences of opinion, and people who are just assholes.
5. LGBT Don't Deserve Higher Privileges Over the Rest
Instead of just acting like any other people as they should, they keep wanting to be seen, heard, and usually well seen, by protesting, by marching in the most improbable outfits. When you want to be treated like any other people, the first step is acting like it. They ask always for more "rights", more privileges, more recognition than the rest of the people.
LGBT aren't sacred beings who can't be accused of anything. LGBT can be racists, sexists, etc.
The thing is, no one would really mind LGBT people if they just lived normally, as any other people. The more you want to be noticed, the more people will get bored and annoyed by it, especially when you're asking for more privileges. Just blend in with the rest of the population.
6. We Shouldn't Label People
Too many labels are ultimately very restrictive. Sure, we humans naturally want to categorize people to understand and identify them, but realistically most aspects of the human experience aren't so black and white. All these gender pronouns are about forcing people to respect each other, and honestly, no one deserves someone else's respect, they must earn it. Labels, in the end, are about simplifying addressing each other and issues we experience, not complicating them. Sexuality should not define anyone.
7. This Community is Homophobic
Before you roll your eyes, read.
The problem with trying to form your own community separate from the rest of society and within the LGBT is that there are separate communities, and trying to lump them all together is ludicrous. Gay men tend to only like other gay women, lesbians tend to like other lesbians and bisexuals like both. There's nothing wrong with that but attacking a gay man is not sexually attracted to a transsexual man is unfair and possibly homophobic, not transphobic. The same for lesbian women because at the end of the day no matter how much surgery a transexual has and how many hormones they take they are still never going to be biologically the sex they want to be.
There are differences within the LGBT community that should be recognised, but instead of trying to form our own communities we should try to claim fit more into mainstream society. Homosexual Transsexuals are going to have to calm it with the drama and accept that gay men and lesbians may not be sexually attracted to them or interested in a relationship with a person of the opposite sex and the same for straight transsexuals with straight men and women, its not Transphobic to not to want to be with a transexual just like it's not homophobic for a straight person to not want to be in a relationship with a lesbian/gay person.
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