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If I should describe the relationship with my crush, its a typical "Neither with you, neither without you!". Which means if I'm kind, she is getting too comfortable and by time she start to ignore me, but when I'm ignoring her, she is desperately want keep our never-existed relationship together (I don't even understand this as she has a boyfriend or what... what her entire family hates and would prefer me over him.). Yet somehow it means something for her to be in a good relationship with me and lately it feels like we're married... without any relationship... where she has a boyfriend. So its damned complicated. At the moment we're in the phase again where I'm ignoring her, and for the first time I'm showing her who is the boss, and she is desperately trying to convince me, we're good, she loves me. But now I want to teach now her a lesson that 2018 will be a bit different and I won't be that kind as before as I'm pretty much bored of her games, and it would be good to decide who should she wants with. However her birthday is approaching, her 25th, so I don't know that should I buy anything to her, a flower for example, or leave her alone.

For either a birthday or an anniversary with with a loved one, would you prefer a material gift or an experience?

By material gift, that could be something such as jewelery, clothing, video games, or any material object that you would like.

By experience, I mean something such as going out for a meal, picnic, a holiday, concert, theme park, those sorts of things.

Also, what specific sort of thing would you want?

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