I am 27 years old, and I have a long history with drugs. However, I have never been a drug user myself. Starting when I was a kid, I have watched family members start off with marijuana and then go into harder stuff, such as cocaine. My own sister even had drug issues growing up and she is now 37 years old and now just starting to get her life together. I have even watched friends of mine from high school start off with weed and they would start doing bad in school or come to class high and it would ultimately reflect badly on them. Hell, I even knew a kid who started off with marijuana in high school. A couple years after high school, I saw his obituary in the paper. He apparently went to harder stuff and died from crystal meth overdose.
Do all people who smoke weed go into hard drugs? No! Is weed harmful for you? No! Will marijuana kill you? No! I am well aware of some of the health benefits of marijuana, and I am well aware that is it becoming decriminalized in certain states. If you want to smoke marijuana, that's cool... but I don't find it sexy when people smoke it. Smoking marijuana, in my opinion, is just as unsexy as smoking a cigarette. I also don't think it makes women look attractive when they smoke. Basically, the act of smoking anything is not sexy in my opinion, and weed smoke is not a pleasant smell at all.
When it comes to women, I have never had good luck with them. I typically go for the women that are established, don't do drugs and keep in shape (because I am that way), but I typically attract women that are the opposite. I always seem to attract women who want to sit on their ass, not do anything, snack all day and smoke weed. Imagine getting on Snap Chat and seeing a bunch of women spend most of their time partying and smoking weed on their snaps. That is what I saw everyday, and it was so annoying.
Last January, I met this girl from Tinder. Albeit, she was 22 at the time, but she was very mature for her age. She was finishing up college, had a good job, was goal oriented, was going for her Masters in clinical psychology and shared many of the same viewpoint as me. Only flaw about her is that she didn't have a car, because her car recently died... and she wasn't big on working out, but she wanted to become healthier and lead a healthier lifestyle. Having a car wasn't a big deal to me and I supported her decision to want to get healthier, so I decided to date her. A couple months into our relationship, I found out that she smokes weed.
When she told me she smoked weed, she asked me what I felt about it. I told her about my past with people who smoke weed and told her that I, myself, am not a fan of it. She understood and she told me that she is cutting down on smoking weed and she will stop for me. After she disclosed this with me, a week later, she told me that she stopped smoking weed and she started eating healthier, drinking more water, going to the gym more often and we started spending a lot of time at the gym. We went to the gym together everyday, inspired each other to eat healthy and I noticed she started losing weight and her skin started clearing up and I was really proud of her.
However, 3 months into this healthy lifestyle, she told me that her best friends (all females) were planning a trip to Houston to visit their family (she and her friends are from Houston). She then asked me if it would be okay with me if she can smoke this one time while on vacation with her friends and then never again. She said that she has been craving a smoke for the past 3 months, but she has been really dedicated to living a healthier lifestyle, but she promised me this would be the last time she smoked. I told her she could, just to get it out of her system and then no more, and she agreed.
After the trip, it seems like things were back to normal with us. We were going out a lot on dates, working out together, eating healthy together and things were pretty good. She then mentioned to me that her best friend Rachel is celebrating her 23 birthday and asked if I would have a problem going out with her friends. I told her to go have fun, as we have been spending basically every weekend and a couple of weekdays together. A couple weeks after that party, she disclosed to me that she smoked weed again with her friends. I then told her about the promise she made to me and she apologized for it and said she couldn't help it sometimes, but she wanted to be upfront with what she was doing.
Then a couple weeks later, while I was on Twitter, I saw a post by her saying that she was in her room watching TV and smoking a blunt. I then slyly confronted her about it. I asked her how it has been not smoking, and then she disclosed to me about smoking weed in her bed a couple weeks ago. I also started to notice her gain weight again and she stopped going to the gym regularly.
Then a couple weeks ago, a new roommate moved into her apartment. She has one roommate (female) who HATES marijuana and does not smoke it. However, she got another new roommate (female as well), who is extremely 420 friendly and smokes all the time. This new roommate also has a brother who stays with her from time to time and he sells marijuana.
Last week, my girlfriend finally had enough money to buy a car, so I drove all around the area with her to find her a nice car, and we finally found one at a good price, so she got a new car. After getting her the car, we went to Wal-Mart to get some car supplies. However, I noticed that she picked up an ashtray for her car. When I questioned her about it, she told me that it was for her friend Rachel. After getting her car supplies, later that night, she left my apartment and went to hang out with Rachel. When she came back to my apartment a couple hours later and we kissed, her breath tasted funny, but I didn't think much of it.
Then, yesterday, I was placing a new cabin air filter in her car and the car had a strange smell in it and I noticed ashes scattered throughout the car. The ashes weren't that noticeable, but you can see them if you looked close enough. Next, I put something in her trunk, and I noticed that ashtray was in the trunk and it has blunts inside of it.
After I found all of that, I confronted her about it, because she lied to me about the ashtray. She confessed that the ashtray was really for her, but her and Rachel did smoke from it in her car. She also confessed to me that she occasionally smokes weed and drives because it relaxes her. She also confessed that she has been smoking 3-4 times a week for the past few months because it really helps her relax, especially when she is stressed. She also mentioned that she has been smoking more of it because her roommate's brother sells it and she is able to buy it from him when he comes over. She tells me she can't help it, because weed helps her to relax and it helps think better when she is stressed, and the only reason she lied to me about it is because she didn't want me to be disappointed in her.
How do you guys feel about your partner smoking marijuana? Does it bother you? Do you care it at all? Do you think my girlfriend is addicted to it?