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Basically, in order for relationships and I guess society to improve, should men improve first, or should women?

And now here's the long explanation.
It's no secret that the divorce rate has increased in the past decades. It's also no secret that single parenthood - especially single motherhood- households have increased substantially. We are now seeing its (detrimental) affects on kids and society - higher rates of depression, aggression, suicide, poor grades and disciplinary issues, dropping out of school, unemployment, poverty, drug and substance usage and addiction, promiscuity, teen pregnancy, criminal behavior and incarceration, etc.

We see constantly people asking why relationships are failing, where society is heading as the nuclear family is being worn away if we continue this trend. Women wonder where are all the good men? Men wonder, especially in the west, are there much "marriage" material women left? How to attract such mates? I've heard many women say what's the point of being a good woman if they still get cheated on. And I've heard men say what's the point of being a good man if women aren't attracted to good men.
Common advice is you need to be a good woman to attract a good man, and vice versa. But in society, which gender needs to improve first. It's kind of a chicken vs egg, which comes first?

TLDR: So my question is, in order for relationships to be fixed in society (reduce divorce rate, reduce single parenthood, etc), who needs to improve first? Men? Women? Both? Neither? What is a "good man/woman"?
Please no trolls, misogyny or misandry.

What if u meet a good man who might be the right husband for you, but his appearance is not appealing AT ALL.
i have been through the situation when I'VE never been attracted to them physically (serious men who want to marry me) they like me n found me ATTRACTIVE. Unfortunately, the mutual attraction doesn't exist. It is always the one-sided attraction.

How can I marry a man who is good but not ATTRACTIVE?
How can I enjoy having sex with him?
How can I enjoy hugging, touching, kissing him?
And y'all know how important the sexual life is in a married couple!
I can't even imagine myself losing my virginity by a man who does not attract me?

My mom is against this. She says that sex is not that important (in marriage) so you don't have to care about his appearance since he's a good man that can protect and respect you n his kids. My mon n I always argue on this :/
Attraction is not EVERY THING there're more important things that should be taken into consideration when it comes to marriage. But ATTRACTION plays a BIIIIIG role too so that the marriage can be successful

What do you think guys have you ever been into this situation before?
have you ever got married to someone you were not physically attracted to, but then attracted you after marriage?