Search Results: is she interested in a commitment

1. When a guy ask me out I assume he wants more
2. I get defensive quick, my first thought is cheating, failure or abandonment
3. I can talk openly and have deep conversation, but if a guy shows interest in a romantic way I freeze and run away I avoid conversation about it
4. Too scared to be sexual, cause I caught feelings for my friends with benefits and he didn’t want me in a romantic way (I am celibate because of it. Have been for years).
5. I am loving, witty, caring and open.
6. I love dates, but I don’t want to date I just want the guy I am supposed to be with sent from the heavens. And not do the work behind finding “the one”.
7. I can be unavailable emotionally and cold
8. Don’t like PDA or getting physical with anyone.
I love being single, love my freedom but I get lonely more often than I can count on two hands. And everyone around me are in love (friends and family). I am happy for them but I often look at my hopeless situation.
7. I feel bitterness towards men
8. I haven’t had the best experience with men. I have been sexually harassed/raped, my dad cheats on my mom all the time since I was a little girl, my first boyfriend left me for someone else, was in a abusing situation and my friends with benefits hurt my feelings.
9. Reading and hearing about men doing women wrong makes me explode even more, especially dating today and how gross we treat each other.

I am ready to shake it all off and start trusting again. I have been single for four years. I can’t keep up with this sad love life. I have used my free time on myself and I have found my passion (self discovery). I am not ready to fully commitment yet even if I miss the intimacy the most (I am still young, and enjoying life), but I am done being mad at men. They deserve better and so does my soul.

Advice?

I've posted a few questions lately about my frustrations in trying to meet people for friendship. Considering the fact that I'm in an open relationship, I'm open to friends with benefits.

I've had it with this new ghosting trend. It makes no damned sense to me. But I'm noticing another pattern now:

People who say that they're only looking for sex, or friendship, but secretly they're just afraid to actively look for a relationship because they've been hurt too much.

Are having sex, they will spring it on me that they're "falling for me" after constantly reminding me that this is "just meaningless sex", when I've made it clear that I'm not interested in being with them like that.

Like, who are you trying to convince? I have a man that I'm happy with, you're just added fun. And, when we're only meeting to hook up, how the fuck do you think you know me enough to be "in love"? What is wrong with people these days?

How many of you have said that you're looking for something casual when what you really wanted something serious? Voting in polls is completely anonymous, and anonymous opinions are welcome.