Why Men Disappear

[Desconhecida]

"Maybe he's just busy..."

If someone disappears on you, they'd better stay disappeared.

You meet a man, you two have excellent chemistry and everything is going in the right direction. And then...
He just disappears from your life!

You have no idea what happened, he doesn't contact you anymore and you even think he may have been in an accident.

After a lot of unanswered calls and messages, you finally realize that he just walked away.

What's left of all this experience is doubt. After all, what could have gone wrong?

You have been GHOSTED!

How does it happen?

You guys had an amazing time together. He said everything was great, that you're beautiful, smart, and he's going to call you soon.
And you wait. One week, two...

NOTHING!...

Then you think, "Is it my fault?"

Girl, please..!

Most of the time it has nothing to do with you. His disappearance could be caused by several reasons.

So let's talk about the main possible reasons why men go missing....

It's a thing now...

Fun Moments Only

It was just fun.

Even if you slept together, it doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with you. It just means he slept with you.

Sometimes there is also no emotional availability. He just thought he was ready to commit to another person, but he wasn't.

Player

He's a PLAYER!

Yeah...We all know men who are good at collecting women.

However, This doesn't necessarily make them a bad person. For these men, ideas of love, family and commitment are not attractive.

The worst in these cases is when sex is not enough. He wants the woman to get emotionally involved and when she's finally in love, they go away. For them, what it's worth is the thrill of the chase.

We just wanna know!

He lost interest /You scared him

After meeting you, he just lost interest. It Happens. No one can please everyone and you guys just didn't match.

But if you're too insecure, with low self-esteem and acting needy, you might have scared the hell out of him!

He may have even come up with good intentions, wanting to get to know you better, but you were already anxious and wanted to skip several steps: you didn't stop calling, texting, asking questions.

That's scary!

Ugh...PEOPLE!

Other reasons

He got back with an ex, he's a sociopath, he's got a secret wife and kids he didn't tell, he's got unsolved issues with his past, who knows?

And you know what? Who gives a damn?

It's not your job to wonder why someone disappeared. The fact is that we cannot control the behaviors of a person.

Good Riddance!

*** Losing a guy who doesn't want you is not a disaster, losing yourself along the way is.

#sccTakes

SCC.

[JZ909]

I ghosted someone who was a friend. I thought it was developing into something more because she flirted with me frequently, but then I noticed that she flirted with other guys in the same way and would get us to do things for her by flirting (helping her move, fixing her car etc.). It really upset me, and I felt like I was manipulated and led on, so I stopped talking to her.

Later on, I found out from a mutual friend that my walking out really hurt her. I have mixed feelings on what happened. On one hand, I feel bad about it, I didn't want to hurt her. On the other hand, what she did was really messed up. What would make her feel it was ok to toy with my emotions like that?

[3rdSrike]

its simple :
1- he just wanted sex and got it
2- you want something serious and he doesn't
3- the girl si being a b*tch or giving him a hard time/ignoring him thinking she looks cool but in reality she is pushing him away.

[aialex]

You forgot one more important reason why ghosted.

He's dead 😂

[Desconhecida]

Good point! It's the only reason we actually hope for! Hahaha

[aialex]

It's the one I actually feel sorry for 😂 otherwise, they all can trip stairs lmao

[Sheriblossom]

lmao trip the stairs! All the f boys need to see this!!! xD

[aialex]

@Sheriblossom *f boy read this. f boy tripped the stairs*

what is this sorcery? ;)

[Sheriblossom]

Kermit the frog "You love being a fuckboy but hate trippin stairs because of all them girls you played... But that ain't none of my business" I actually made a pic of my meme lmao too bad I can't attach it!

[aialex]

@Sheriblossom I wannaaa seeeee. That must triggered a lot of f boys

[Sheriblossom]

Lol! Maybe soon I'll make a mytake dedicated to f boy memes and I'll attach it!! lmao :)

[Tdieseler]

LMFAO... this is a good take actually... i love this. it kinda hits the point BUT doesn't hit the point.
Let me take the time to tell the Writer that i do appreciate the effort... but that is not the reason why men "disappear"
Its not even close.
Not for the good committed men anyway. If i wanted to play some chick, i'd use your words, but from what i do, sometimes if i leave someone, its because they gave me good reason.

You wonder why a guy ghosted you?, look deeper, the problem MIGHT be you.

[Lavinnykins]

Had a similar scenario with a long-term crush who only recently admitted that the reason he'd disappear suddenly was because of his own emotions towards me and he didn't feel ready for it in case he messed it up and that was the only chance.

[Sociopathvictim]

The girl is a mess and isn't in a 50:50 mindframe, a guy will get tired of constantly initiating conversation and dates. How he knows a girl is not interested, when he stops texting and he doesn't get a text from her.
It's not about 'why men dissapear' its about you not putting any effort in.

[Belgie]

Took you some time to get there, but you did. Well done.

No one gives a shit why someone ghosted you, and you shouldn't either. UNLESS it was due to some behaviour you can change... but that's more up to good friends to help you with, not some random who ghosted you. Fuck that guy.

[VIVANT]

The reason are irrelevant you can’t cover all the possibilities but her being unstable IS about her so no point suing it’s not her fault.

Also his or women who don’t want anything find ANYTHINH scary and it’s not bc the person isn’t unstable. Most stories about “psychos”” are just normal people dealing with avoidant people who can’t handle themselves.

[Browneye57]

The primary reason guys will ghost a girl is if she's already somewhat emotionally unstable, kind of like this post. So then they'll go all gaga and stalk you and even sometimes try to kill you or themselves.

No, if you have a plate and you bail there's no explanation required. If your guy disappeared on you just get a new one.

[SwoleCook]

Let me tell you how angry women get the next time they see you after getting ghosted.

[Desconhecida]

I can imagine... LOL

[LauraS345]

Weird. I didn't get angry. I think he's a sleaze. And kind of look at him like he's something gross that came out of my dog; but he's not worth my time worrying about.

[SwoleCook]

@LauraS345 lol k but you still remember him and took the time write your reply.

[LauraS345]

Yep. You generally remember the smell of dog crap. I wouldn't consider that a GOOD thing for you to aspire to SwoleCook; but maybe that's what you've got to work with. At least you think that's all you can brag about.

[SwoleCook]

That’s the nicest thing anyone has ever told me.

[Desconhecida]

Hahahahah she's great

[SwoleCook]

Yeah amazing. So nice and sweet

[little_bird1]

I think that's why most of them never dare reaching out again. :D

[taleswapper]

Well, there's a reason we do failure analysis. you left off the most important reason of all. the guy thought you were hideously inappropriate, and doesn't want anything to do with you. You ignored his attempts to break it off, and so he's just blocked you...

[bethshepherd]

But how many women bring it on themselves by being quick to jump into bed with them when they hardly know them, and then wonder why the guy does not think about friendship and love and romance when she made it all too easy and convenient without it.

[JellyDonutguy96]

I don't know what you're talking ab--------

vanishes

[GoodManDave]

They were abducted by Candle Jack for saying his name.

Oh no... I said "Candle Ja--::grabbed in mid sentence::.

[Unit1]

Guys? GUUUYYYSSS? Where are you all? What is happ--- * gets dragged away and disappears*

[Desconhecida]

@Unit1 hahahaha you guyss

[Unit1]

I heard something!

HELP!!! HELP US!!!

[Unit1]

Good article.
It makes sense.
I would just like to add, that we can experience this too from women.

[LegateLanius]

Ghosting - the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

It has nothing to do with their gender.

[SketchForger]

There's a lot of bolds in places that are emphasized, and quotes that shouldn't be quotes, but it's engaging I'll have to admit.

Very nice myTake though, very easy to follow.

[zuricose]

What about a guy who chases women to get into their pants, but the moment the girl expresses that she wants him in her pants, the guy loses interest to the point that his dick literally stops reacting to her? Does that men he is a player simply looking for the thrill of the chase?

[edgyfox]

It could be a number of reasons, But you should always take into account that Men do have feelings too.

[GoodManDave]

::women Collectively all fall to the floor in fits of laughter over this concept.::

[Bananaman177]

It's because he looked you up on the internet and saw all your social media history.

You can't hide from your past if you're stupid enough to upload it.

[Pyrofox]

Missed the other point. That the girl in the relationship just had too much luggage to go with the relationship and he's just tired of picking up the slack.

[Djaay]

Why do women blame everything under the sun , except don't blame themselfs for being just plain unworthy of being relationship material? And then can't figure out why guys know when it's time to abort...

[Evil_Chuck]

Honestly, I would rather make a good impression on a girl and walk away than stick around until they take me for granted. At least if you leave them wondering, they care about you for a while.

[John_Doesnt]

Men disappear because they find out that masturbation and video games are just as satisfying.