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This is from the perspective that they were barely or not discussed prior to the date.

My own view on it:

"Whilst I've never been on a date before, I don't think it's totally unreasonable, I mean imagine going on multiple dates with the same person, only to find out they have obvious things you consider to be deal breakers e. g. opposing political views, disagreements over whether or not you want children, etc. Isn't it better to just get your standards and deal breakers out of the way, instead of wasting time, if they weren't discussed properly beforehand? Generally speaking, I don't think people are willing to compromise on standards and deal breakers. Maybe I just have a tendency to think things through really deeply and try to be a perfectionist, but given what I've said above, I feel it makes sense, even if it comes across as rushing things or moving too fast."

You don't have to agree with anyone else's opinions on the matter, just don't bash each other over it and try to explain your own reasons, if you can, that's mostly what I'm looking for, whether you agree with my view on it or not.

This question is inspired by one I've posted before, lol and one of the answers I got on there summed up my point pretty well, so I thought why not:

Is discussing politics on a first date really such a bad thing?

One of the harmful stereotypes is that all men are abusive and All fathers are tough it's harmful and dangerous because it sets up scenarios and stereotypes that deny the uniqueness of the situation and caps the complexity of human beings. Just because you have a father doesn't mean that they are tough doesn't mean they're abusive it doesn't mean they're out to get you. From what I learned this is what women's select out of their mates and this is why The Stereotype exist in most cases women pick men who are tough to the point of being abusive power hungry hurt you through their insecurities these are the type of men that women want and these are the type of men who normally become our fathers. On the other hand women are human as well they are responsible for just as much evil as men in fact The Stereotype that they are incapable of evil does more harm inside of relationships. Especially the variety of son and mother. I have experienced abuse at the hands of my mother the hands that we're supposed to care and feed for me abused me it would be one thing if it was obvious but it led to me being confused and not moving on in my life and making indecisive decisions all the things that make me a weaker man and all the things that women theme as worthless and weakness. She would have used me and try to identify it as tough love and say that I was weak I guess the Tipping Point was when I have to fight her boyfriend and then she called me a sissy when I brought it up. I'm working out the emotional problems and issues inside of me. Women's interests aside no one's going to help me do that; it's something I want to do. But I have to work a lot harder because normally men redeem that trauma points through their sex lives when it comes to mother problems. the question and poll I have for the guys is how many men have gone through parental abuse at the hands of their mother and what did you use to cope?