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Me and my girlfriend have been serious for a long time now, almost 3 years. Recently she's been interested more and more in feminism, joining groups and reading up on feminist issues on Reddit. I haven't really had an issue with it until now. Our lives are pretty much perfect, I have a well paying job on the internet that allows me to be home and she's a stay at home girlfriend. A few nights ago we were talking about getting married, settling down, having children and thinking up names for our future children when she said that she doesn't want to take my surname because it's some kind of patriarchal sign of ownership. She's known for a while now that it's important to me that my wife and children take my surname, I'm the only son in my family so I'm the only one who can keep my family name alive and I don't want us to have different surnames. I equate taking my surname as important to me as the wedding ring is for her (she's not a gold digger but she's been planning her wedding since she was like 10, part of those plans is a nice ring she can show off to her friends). I don't think this is big enough to break up but if she continues with this, I'm not going to get her a wedding ring because according to a number of sources wedding rings are also a symbol of ownership if she wants to be like that.