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I asked this guy twice if he wants to hang out ( I want to apologize for some stuff from before. Just miscommunication where he felt rejected, where i just was not ready for a relationship but i did not explain it.)

"He started off confused then got annoyed. Today -annoyed- he asked what I want. I told him very calmly , friendly, honestly.

"Well, originally I asked you if you wanted to hang out because I wanted to be alone so we could talk alone. I just thought hanging out first would make it more friendly. I didn't want you to feel like it was something bad when I just want to explain things. But, you seem pretty annoyed. Honestly the idea of trying to explain myself -which is hard enough- to someone who is annoyed with the idea of hanging out with me, is not appealing. I just wouldn't be comfortable. I'd feel like you thought you were doing me some kind of favor , or were bored , or didn't want to be there... so its best we forget it."

He looked disappointed, so i added :

" We can do this. IF you for whatever reason decide you feel like hanging out, let me now, and then we can 'talk'. (I smiled) See you later."

If I had to select a score on a 1-10 scale, I would probably say more than 5. While there are some men that will still be jerks, controlling and cheaters no matter how sweet his girlfriend or wife is (in that case, he doesn't deserve anyone), I don't think that's always the case.

There are certain things that can annoy/bore the heck out of a guy IMO:

- Nagging and arguing (even more irritating if it comes with insults)
Really? Do you have to repeat something more than twice to make your point? What exactly is the woman gaining by doing that? More than likely the guy probably wants to walk out the door to get some fresh air (by himself) where he should be spending his spare time with the woman he loves.
- The drama queen
Literally, my mother threw a big tantrum (crying too) because her cell phone had no access for a couple day. Meanwhile my father had this ''not this again'' expression of annoyance in his face. I don't even act like that on my period.

- Neglecting a man's need constantly
While I get that there will be times we're tired from work as well, that doesn't mean there is no time at all for him. At the very least, asking how his day was at work, giving him a cup of tea or hugging him before going to bed is a difference than not even trying at all. Then off course, being on the computer all day long or on your cell talking to your friends nonstoppable while the guy is right there waiting.

At the end of the day, both are responsible for putting their time and effort (off course if the guy is all moody for no reason after I simply asked him how his day was and if he wanted a cup of tea, then that's him being a jerk) to work out their relationship or marriage. I'm just pointing out certain things some women do that might lead to the relationship or marriage following apart.

We've been together for two years and I love him but I don't know if I'm in love with him. I need some outside perspective.
· Reasons to stay

o I love him.

o He might be my soul mate.

o Our values line up.

o Our plans line up.

o He’s been there through everything.

o He loves me.

o I’m scared to leave him.

o If I leave him, I’m afraid I’ll never find love like this again.

o His personality.

· Reasons to leave

o I want more time for myself.

o I need time to grow up.

o I want to meet other people.

o I’m bored with him.

o Everything he does annoys me.

o He’s so immature.

o He is not in tune with his emotions.

o He doesn’t put effort into me.

o What if he isn’t the one?

o I’m afraid to commit.

o The sex is boring.

o I’m less attracted to him than before.

o His mother.

o I have feelings for someone else.