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I see a lot of questions on here from guys and girls, saying that their partners are doing things that I would personally consider very inappropriate in a relationship. For instance, a mans wife is texting a male coworker non-stop and hanging out with him alone after work hours. Or a woman's husband is partying every weekend with the guys not coming home till 3AM every weekend. Or a man is still in contact and friends with women who he's had sexual relationships with. I understand there is trust in a relationship, but I also think that there should be boundaries in a relationship that we don't cross because it would make our partners feel uncomfortable. Also, if your partner is doing the above, then logically, there's a good chance that some infidelity is occurring or is about to occur. Maybe not always, but how are you going to ignore the possibility? These people seem to sit on this throne of "I trust them no matter what.", but that's honestly delusional thinking if your partner is doing these things in my opinion.

I believe the solution all resonates from reciprocity. Meaning, if I'm getting this girl snap-chatting me selfies of herself all day asking me things that imply she could be flirting, and I entertain that even though I know I'm not doing anything wrong myself, then it's still going to make my fiance feel uncomfortable. I ask myself, would I feel uncomfortable if a guy was doing this to her? If the answer is yes, then I won't put her in that situation. We're both pretty similar in our boundaries so it works out.

It's never been a "You can't do this.", because it never gets to the point. If my fiance was doing some sketchy shit that made me uncomfortable, and I told her it made me feel this way, and she kept doing it, then she doesn't really care about my feelings. If she doesn't care about my feelings, than it's time to end the relationship. The same works if she felt uncomfortable and I didn't do anything about it.

... Thoughts?

I occasionally see posts from girls complaining that their boyfriend has actually LOOKED at another girl. I am not defending the behavior illustrated above, but I think this is one of those Mars/Venus situations where the girlfriend usually attaches far too much importance to the occurrence.

Men are visual creatures. Even when we are in a committed relationship, a pretty girl attracts our attention. We can fantasize about what it would be like to have sex with someone other than our current girlfriend. That does NOT mean that we want to be unfaithful.

I live with my girlfriend and I hope that our relationship grows stronger for the rest of our lives. However, I still look at other women and appreciate their beauty, even younger women. . . BUT that does not mean that I want to pursue that other woman. I also have a girlfriend from my past - Oksana - who is very attractive and very nice; if our circumstances were different, I would be dating or living with her instead of my current girlfriend. I sometimes fantasize about having sex with Oksana. However, I have absolutely no contact with Oksana and I have no intentions of ever again contacting her. I must confess that I also fantasize about Kristen Bell but that's not gonna happen, either!

None of this behavior equates with infidelity. If your ability to maintain your relationship depends on your partner never looking at another pretty girl or handsome guy, your relationship is doomed. He may have turned to look at the cute waitress as she walked away, but he went home with you. . . right? Instead of complaining about something that seems to be innate and immutable, why not be grateful that your partner works to avoid temptation?

After all. . . haven't you - even just once - looked at someone else while you were in a relationship?

"A cheating man can continue to love his woman. Cheating women have lost respect for their man"

If a woman cheats, it is more likely to signal an end to the relationship than if a man cheats. For many men, sex is sex, and relationships are relationships

When women cheat, there is usually an element of romance, intimacy, connection, etc... Men, on the other hand, are more likely to cheat to satisfy sexual urges, with fewer thoughts of intimacy. For them, infidelity can be an opportunistic, primarily sexual action that, in their minds, does not affect their primary relationship.

In fact, many men will report that they’re very happy in their primary relationship, that they love their significant other, that their sex life is great, and that, despite their cheating, they have no intention of ending their primary relationship.

A relationship damaged by a man’s infidelity might be more likely to survive after infidelity is uncovered, as opposed to when a woman has cheated