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I went on a date 2 days ago, it was way up there in comparison to previous first dates. We just clicked instantly. We ended up spending 7 hours together, visited 3 different locations. There were no silent moments, I smiled until my cheeks hurt. He didn't directly flirt with me but would tell me that he's so shocked by my intellect and how well we connect and when time ran away from us he told me that he didn't want to leave, that he really wants to see me again. There were moments where I'd express an oddly specific opinion/perspective on a topic and his mouth would drop, and he'd ask where I came from as if I'd just stolen the words out of his mouth. We didn't kiss, but he sat and played guitar for me and swooned over my music taste and my philosophies and every little thing we have in common. I really FELT the connection. He's also a creative, and more of a doer than just a talker. There's enough evidence to back that up. He told me he finds me attractive, too.

Here's the problem though...

He told me that his last relationship ended 6 months ago partially because he is so dedicated to his craft that sometimes he'll put his phone down for days at a time to finish a piece, that he isn't much of a texter, and that girls don't understand this about him and it causes tension. Fair enough, I thought it made sense. But on the date he showed me some of his artworks hidden in his chats and i didn't see much but he didn't look like a bad texter. Even so, ever since our date, ever since he told me how he's so ridiculously keen to see me again and we're going to make all these plans together, I've hardly heard from him. This morning for example after I texted first he exchanged 2 messages asking about how my work has been going, then ignored me for the last 13 hours. He's been actively posting on his business account, and I can see his online status on whatsapp now and then when I check, and I'm just so confused. I thought it went so well? Am I overthinking this?

Why do we hate the sound of our own voices?


To summarise:

Introduction = "The discomfort we have over hearing our voices in audio recordings is probably due to a mix of physiology and psychology."

Reason 1 = "For one, the sound from an audio recording is transmitted differently to your brain than the sound generated when you speak." "People generally perceive their voice as deeper and richer when they speak. The recorded voice, in comparison, can sound thinner and higher pitched, which many find cringeworthy."

Reason 2 = "There’s a second reason hearing a recording of your voice can be so disconcerting. It really is a new voice – one that exposes a difference between your self-perception and reality. Because your voice is unique and an important component of self-identity, this mismatch can be jarring. Suddenly you realize other people have been hearing something else all along."

Conclusion = "Even though we may actually sound more like our recorded voice to others, I think the reason so many of us squirm upon hearing it is not that the recorded voice is necessarily worse than our perceived voice. Instead, we’re simply more used to hearing ourselves sound a certain way."

Exclusive is the key word.

I actually believe men are more likely to have ethnic preferences, but women who have ethnic preferences are more likely to keep it strictly exclusive in comparison to men.

Example: Black male prefers Asian women but will date white or black. White female, on the other hand, prefers and will only date Black men.