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There’s 2 incidents that happened when I was about a few months into my relationship with my boyfriend. I work at a retail store that really pushes us to get people to sign up for the store’s credit card, our jobs depended on it. Anyway, I was walking around the mall to ask people to sign up and I asked this guy. He said he’d sign up for it only because I have a nice body. I thanked him but asked him more questions about where he was from since I lived in this city all of my life and I’ve never seen him anywhere. We chatted about the schools we went to on the way back, and he signed up for the card. He asked for my number and I gave it to him because I wanted to know him more, at the time I didn’t really know why, I was just curious about him. He then said he was going to get some food and I requested to bring me back a milkshake and he did. He did ask if I would do sexual things with him but I declined. He didn’t really respond to my messages, I only sent him a couple of texts. I did find him on social media and we are following each other to this day, but never communicated on there.

The 2nd time was a few months later when I misheard this guy’s last name and thought he said “handsome.” He thought I was complimenting him when I just didn’t hear him. He told me he worked with my sibling later and we exchanged numbers just as a way for me to keep tabs on that sibling (he lies about where he is a lot) and for my boyfriend for later use because he’s going into that same field. We only texted for 2-3 days because he was sending kiss emojis and that made me uncomfortable. He even came by my workplace with snacks even though I told him he didn’t need to. He sent me an extra text before we stopped texting altogether.

When I did try to come clean about it to my boyfriend when it happened, I lied. I said I didn’t give my number to these guys and didn’t take up the milkshake offer just because he allowed his female friend to his room during that time period.

Hi everyone. My boyfriend (ex now) & I were dating for 7 years & on Monday of this week he decided to break up w/ me. We have been in a tough spot for about 3 in a half weeks however we’ve still continued to work things through together. Sometime beginning of last week we got into a bit of an argument & my cousin (she lives w/ me) overheard some of the argument & I guess in a way to come to my “defense” she said to my boyfriend “I hope you get coronavirus & die”. A few moments passed he called me to express how her saying that made him feel & he said that he’s now uncomfortable being w/ me because of what she said to him. He continued to say that “if she can say that about me what will she say about my family”. Of course him saying he’s now uncomfortable being w/ me didn’t sit well w/ me however I apologized to him on her behalf & said to him that what she said was wrong & I would never wish that. He said that it’s not my fault & there’s nothing I should be sorry for and after that I asked him if he really felt uncomfortable being with me and he said yes. He hasn’t spoken to me for about 3 days and I texted him and said he needs to give me some answers on how we can move forward. He said that what my cousin said aggravated him, he doesn’t want to be bothered by me, and he’d rather remove himself from the “situation” and he broke up with me. We’ve been together for 7 years & I just can’t believe he would throw it all away because of that. I respect his feelings and understand that what my cousin said he didn’t like but to break up with me for it? To hurt me for it? I don't know. I would never break up w/ him over something like that simply because I wouldn’t necessarily let someone who has absolutely nothing to do w/ our relationship influence my decision to stay/leave. I thought our love, our bond, was stronger than that especially considering everything we’ve been through. I am so heartbroken. Am I wrong for thinking his decision to break up with me is ridiculous?