Yes, we all know how it is. We all want someone to cuddle, someone to kiss, someone that will always be by your side... but is it all really what it seems? Maybe there are some reasons why it would be better if we'd just be patient and wait. It can save us a lot of problems and heartbreaks. Here I'll give you the main reasons why you should never hurry with finding yourself a boyfriend:
1. Relationships that start too fast will also end fast.
This is one of the most common scenarios that happen when someone hurries love. If you just enter a relationship with whoever without getting to know them first and without really thinking through if that guy is right for you, it is more likely that this relationship will fail. You will feel incompatible, and you'll just know that all of this was a mistake. Or that guy may actually be a jerk disguised as a nice person, which will result in a big heartbreak for you...
2. Many guys at a young age will feel like you don't even need to exist.
The reason? Because for many young guys, their friends are the only thing that counts, and as long as he has male friends, the girlfriend is just ''there'', if you know what I mean. She exists, but she doesn't have a deeper meaning for the guy, and therefore it would make no difference for him if she didn't even exist at all. This behavior in young men is especially visible considering how popular the saying ''bros before hoes'' is, and how many teenage boys often feel PROUD of DITCHING a date with their girlfriend just to play video games with his ''bros''. And nope, what I'm saying isn't that men should always prioritise their girlfriends over their friends. I am just saying that if you HEAVILY prefer your friends over your girlfriend, to the point that she doesn't even need to exist, there is no point in entering the relationship in the first place. And the sad truth is that most women will actually prioritise their boyfriends over their friends, even at a young age. So it is just unfair for us women when our boyfriends are the most important things ever, and meanwhile they treat us like trash.
3. You may not even be ready for a relationship.
Yes, I get it. Everyone is different. BUT it often happens that someone who isn't really ready for a relationship enters a relationship, it ends with themselves being hurt or their partner being hurt. Relationships often mean that you need the ability to solve problems with other people, and you need to be conscious of the fact that you may often get into arguments with your partner. If you feel like you cannot stand it, you aren't ready for a relationship. And entering a relationship will just be a hassle for you. To save yourself the hassle, better wait until you feel more responsible and mature.
4. And last but not least, SEX
Unfortunately, many young people, not specifically men, are sex-starved and have an extremely high sex drive. There are also many young people who just aren't ready for having sex. It can be hard for someone who isn't ready to find a compatible partner, as today's society is very sex-obsessed, and you cannot just get rid of your partner's sex-drive. Also, later on you might regret the fact that you had sex with someone you didn't really like, if it happens that you break up after a short time. So, make sure that you really are ready for sex and that you plan on having sex with someone that you really want to have sex with. You may also consider waiting for a while until hormones aren't going crazy inside people's bodies and they will actually be willing to wait for you when it comes to sexual stuff.