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I have someone who I had once really liked, but she doesn't seem like she's actually a friend. She's been hot and cold with me for years. She'd invite me to hang out but cut the meet short Everytime because she was I'll or something.
But she'd always ask for favors for her or her boyfriend. After a while, I stopped talking to her because I felt like I was being used.
We didn't talk until 4 years later when I found her on a dating site. She went on one date and when I asked her out again, she insulted me, said I'd never be more than a friend and that she couldn't see us becoming anything.
I was hurt by her comments and a week later she asked if we can stay friends and I didn't answer. It's now been over a year and a half and I had blocked her on social media and deleted her number. Even deleted my dating profile.
I got a random message from a new number asking if one of my friends did bodywork and if I could get them in touch because she got rear ended. Then she sent me an explanation of her new number and said who it was.
I haven't responded, because I feel she's just using me. She didn't reach out for a year and we didn't even connect on Facebook after I made one recently.
Is she just using me or is there something more?

I realize that, for a more extreme example, a girl under similar circumstances to a Western male incel, could actually still land a boyfriend with some ease. What I mean is if she is in a cycle of depression, lack of motivation, lack of self esteem, and loneliness with very few irl friends, this doesn't seem to dramatically deter attraction from men as far as I know. I. e. men still tend to accept this potential side of female humanity should they encounter such. It may rather make a man feel good that he can help heal a woman from such a rut.

Prettiness is a huge factor though, but the vast, vast majority of women are not considered visually unattractive by men, unlike the other way around. Unfortunately, modern men and women don't prioritize virtue though, if we even care much for that at all outside the idea of, "committing to your goals", which doesn't even mean you're a good or ethical person. So despite the fact that most, most women can find a sexual partner almost instantly, they don't have faith that they can have a committed and substantive relationship that will go somewhere.

Yet with all that said, underneath all of our societal lack of virtue at least in the West, men are still both culturally and biologically driven to serve, help, and forge their lives with women.

But could women be leaving men hanging here, despite all the progress? Do women really care about their sexual partners/spouses/S. O.'s/and potential partners? Or is it almost exclusively about self interest, judging how "hot" his "masculine and/or fun personality" is, and of course how hot he looks?

Is a gentle, kind heart enough for a woman in the way that it is enough for a man? Please vote and explain your thoughts in the comments.