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One of the harmful stereotypes is that all men are abusive and All fathers are tough it's harmful and dangerous because it sets up scenarios and stereotypes that deny the uniqueness of the situation and caps the complexity of human beings. Just because you have a father doesn't mean that they are tough doesn't mean they're abusive it doesn't mean they're out to get you. From what I learned this is what women's select out of their mates and this is why The Stereotype exist in most cases women pick men who are tough to the point of being abusive power hungry hurt you through their insecurities these are the type of men that women want and these are the type of men who normally become our fathers. On the other hand women are human as well they are responsible for just as much evil as men in fact The Stereotype that they are incapable of evil does more harm inside of relationships. Especially the variety of son and mother. I have experienced abuse at the hands of my mother the hands that we're supposed to care and feed for me abused me it would be one thing if it was obvious but it led to me being confused and not moving on in my life and making indecisive decisions all the things that make me a weaker man and all the things that women theme as worthless and weakness. She would have used me and try to identify it as tough love and say that I was weak I guess the Tipping Point was when I have to fight her boyfriend and then she called me a sissy when I brought it up. I'm working out the emotional problems and issues inside of me. Women's interests aside no one's going to help me do that; it's something I want to do. But I have to work a lot harder because normally men redeem that trauma points through their sex lives when it comes to mother problems. the question and poll I have for the guys is how many men have gone through parental abuse at the hands of their mother and what did you use to cope?

So, I was texting a friend of mine (actually discussing a MyTake; How to become attractive to women. How to stop fearing women. A guide for dudes who are UTTERLY HOPELESS with women. ), and how I have my own issues with women; mainly being short, ugly, dark, fat/obese, etc. (things I'm all somewhat okay with, aside from the height, but they are not).

And my internal struggle is whether I should give up women altogether, since it seems to be an effort in futility and a massive waste of time and energy, or keep trying to find someone special while working on improving myself (like the author of that MyTake said). Most of my improvement needs to come from within and focusing on being stoic and more calm and accepting with myself, and the outside world, which I kinda hate.

Really, I can't/don't want to, do both. I can either focus on myself and my own happiness, or seek love, companionship, sex, intimacy, etc, from women. I know people always say "you need to be fine with yourself first," but... That's kinda bullsh*t. And it's coming from people who already have a ton of self-esteem and generally zero issues with dating. On some days, I feel like the MGTOW crowd has it right all along and I should just focus on self-growth and happiness. And on other days, I'm just ridiculously lonely, and see how other people, who put in less than a fraction of the work I do on self-improvement, still have these happy, amazing relationships.

So I was discussing all of this with my female friend. And while she didn't give me an answer to the problem, because she's a romantic and loves love (and also a woman, so can't relate to what it's like to be alone indefinitely and unable to meet someone), she did tell me that line.
"25 to 33% of all women are bitches." Implying I SHOULD stop focusing on them.

And I can't exactly disagree. I know; in Current Year; you're NEVER not supposed to kiss women's asses at all times, but like I said, their asses aren't worth kissing.