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you still have some walls up. you let the person in, but not all the way.. but you tell them you love them anyway because thats how you feel.

no need to read this but this is where my question is coming from- I feel like thats the way I am with my boyfriend and I want to get over it so badly. we've been together at least a year and I thought that by now, id have been able to let my guard down. even with this, i know he can still hurt me. I mean, he had. even with me still being kind of a close person. main reason why I can't imagine him hurting me when/if I become completely open with him. he's open with me. thats probably how a person should be when they're in a relationship, lol. he knows I am still not and I think he's just waiting and giving me time to be on the same page as him.

So im not a smoker but my boyfriend and his family are. When it comes to just my partner smoking when its just the two of us he's pretty good with it, i stay my distance he stays away from me/ sometimes ask if he can smoke and he doesn't smoke as much.

When it comes to being over to his house , they've opened windows and have fans going.. its a small place. Its hard for me to leave the situation when they are talking to me mid conversation and they light one up. Even when im not in the same room as they are sometimes i still smell it really badly. I dont like the smell of it/ hard to breathe sometimes.

Im not trying to change him or his family but i personally think the person shouldn't be smoking infront of a non smoker especially in a small place. Find ways around it. It just seems like the family isn't trying hard enough. I dont want to end the relationship because of this.