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People are how they are. They are in one place emotionally in life today, but so many do not function at their higher levels. We are all in different stages of growth.

But to relate to people, to win them over in relationships, date, etc... is it better to interact with them as they are now, or to interact with them as you see they can be... e. g. when you see their greater potential?

My gut says if you want to win a date with someone, you have to deal with what you see in front of you. Trying to convey you see their higher good will look like manipulation when you don't know them.

When in a relationship, I think better chance to treat them in a better way.

For example, if a woman has been abused by men and has low self esteem, you could treat her like the other guys who had success. that's proven to work with her. Trying to treat her higher than she sees herself... I'm sure girls are going to say... yea do that... but my guess is it backfires as her feelings rise up she isn't worthy, and loses attraction. theory not fact...

But when you are dating her, I think you can feed to her how you see her potential, and help her to heal from those wounds from others.

I hope that made sense... It's late, lightbulb is dimming...:)