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I'm seeing a girl who I felt I was compatible with, sweet, kind hearted and had her morals straight. When things are good it's quite good. The flipside has been very hard. To start, she's not that educated but acts like she knows better and refuses to trust what I say is correct or incorrect, argues with me and even googles to prove me wrong, which fails. She is extremely hard headed, stubborn and prideful when it comes to arguments. Like an immature brick wall. She avoids answering my questions a lot when I'm calling her out on her shit or something that I felt was wrong, hurtful, or mean. She never admits when she's wrong. Like things we all know no one would like, she would lie saying she'd be okay with it, just to deflect her guilt. She is insecure, has daddy issues, threatened to commit suicide multiple times even if she has a son, doesn't remember important things I tell her and things we've argued about before, so stubborn to admit when one is wrong and then attacks me claiming I'm a person who always wants to be right, doesn't communicate well, takes things out of context, makes up what she thinks I'm thinking and doesn't believe what I'm actually thinking, so jealous and paranoid that I will run off with some other girl and straight goes into accusation mode and treats a faithful person like he's a cheater when she is a person who is overly friendly and taken as flirtatious (ie. greets random security guard with duck face puckered lips, eyes closed with hand gesture next to her eye like taking a photobooth sticker pic). It feels so unfair and she makes it like everything she does is okay but if I do something it's not or suspicious. Almost everytime she drinks she causes an argument/fight by getting snappy, angry, cussy. I feel so exhausted and drained. I feel like she is bringing the worst out of me. She says she'll change but we have the same fights and feels like she never will. She says she loves me but doesn't change what's destroying us. Is that love?

For example. In Grade 11 of High School. My friend Laura, who was an international student from Columbia, sent me a text message saying "There's something I need to tell you, but I'm kinda scared to do it." I still hadn't realized what she meant at that moment since I was extremely dense but I kinda figured it out at 1am, when she turned me around to face her on the sofa and told it to my face: "I love you".

That's when she gave me my first kiss and I realized that I had been holding back my feelings out of a fear that she would tell me we were only friends. Laura, unfortunately for me I suppose, ended up back with her ex the next week, and eventually with a close friend of mine-- a decision I supported because I believed he could make her happy. Which seems to have been the right one as they just passed their 2 year anniversary and are happily in love.

Although-- back onto topic, I wonder still, since she took the lead in that situation, whether I should try not to read into things too much and start presuming things BEFORE someone lays out to me their feelings loud and clear. Like even in the less incognito cases such as: if a girl finds reasons to kiss my cheek a lot, or makes flirty jokes at me about joining her in the shower over text, or goes straight to me when she gets drunk to try to kiss me, they can be acting friendly or romantic, but it feels rude to assume they like me before they expressly say it.

So Really I guess I'm asking, do you think I should take things at face value and not read for hidden meanings and watch body language too carefully to understand how a girl I like feels toward me? Or should I be reading into everything extra hard in order to make an "educated guess" of sorts, since people still say "Men need to make the first move to seem competent."?