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How good is your intuition in relationships?
Is it something you’d be willing to base your choices on, in the absence of something more tangiable or do you need to have definite evidence of wrong doing even if your partner isn’t forthcoming with the facts before taking action?

One of my best friends and I had a nasty blow up back in July over something that seemed stupid to me, but it seemed monumental to him. I attempted to be compromising and diplomatic about his concerns. He was very upset and did not handle it well. He said a lot of very hurtful things, and he told me to cancel my trip to see him that we'd planned a month earlier. This was only 3 days before I was set to board the plane. It was our only fight in over 3 years of being good friends. He was so emotional and unreasonable that I ended up telling him that I'm done, and I stopped talking.

I finally decided to message him yesterday to see if he'd cooled off. He wrote back right away and immediately began to apologize profusely for how he handled his anger and how he behaved towards me. He offered to fly me out to see him at his own expense. He kept telling me how much he'd missed me.

I thought it was odd that he missed me so much and waited for me to reach out before he would apologize. So, I asked, "Why didn't you write?" He said, "Because, I'm stubborn."

I don't understand how he would miss me so much and be willing to sit there missing me and not write me. I have a few best friends who are like that. They will usually pop up months later apologizing, pretending nothing happened, and/or bribing.

Do they really care? What are they thinking? Are you this type of person? Please, give us your insight!