Search Results: Do you pull out right away or keep it in

I've been in a relationship for almost 5 years in January. Since we did get serious and settled down pretty fast, (right out of high school in 2010), last week we came to a mutual understanding that maybe we should take a break from each other and actually enjoy our early adulthood. (he brought it up, but I felt like this once before and never spoke on it). We agreed to always keep in contact, to make sure each other was okay. We have no kids together, he's been there for me throughout my 4 years of university, and I've been there for him through just about everything, Well, after 2 days of our "break", I told him since he wants to enjoy his young adult hood, I would like to join the Navy. (Didn't decide on active duty or the reserves at that moment). He completely pushed me away! Like, left and went out with his friends. Now, today, he said he apologize and wanted me to take him back, and if I didn't he understood. I was still indecisive, I was unsure since I already started making independent moves after he disregarded my plans for the future. After talking a bit today, come to find out, the night he went out, he got drunk and had sex with some girl! But is still upset that me joining the service is still in the back of my mind. I told him we can work through it, but my trust is not fully there anymore. I mean, I know we weren't together during the break, but sheesh 3 days after he broke up with me, he pulls this stunt and expects me to take him back. He said he did it out of spite because I wanted to live off in the world and forget about him. We currently live together, but i was slowly moving out within those 3 days. I mean, I know we all make mistakes and no one is perfect, but it's a tough pill to swallow. What do you think? Work it out or throw 5 years down the drain?

Or do they just do it to show off to other guys that they are in control of the relationship instead of being known as 'whipped'?

I don't mind dominance in bed as long as I can be dominant too, which is currently an issue with my boyfriend at the moment as he always wants to take charge. Like I can have my way with him for at least 10 minutes until he decides 'right, now it's my turn' and takes over for however long it lasts.

When it comes to shopping, he is a total gentleman but still asserts dominance by making sure I don't overspend on stuff I don't need but just have to have. He would literally pull at my arm (in a playful way!) to get me away from the shoes!

I noticed a week ago on train that the guy who was sat across from me kept taking glances at me and I know my boyfriend saw this too. I saw from the reflection of the window that the guy was looking at me, my boyfriend noticed so he held my hand and looked at him as if to say I was his and that's when he stopped taking glances.