Ok, so I've read through some of the other people's responses and they seem to understand something you don't. HE LIKES YOU, plain as day. The way he is flirting with you IS NOT a sign of him just being a good friend. You said, he was rubbing your back. NO guy would just randomly rub a girl's back to be friendly. Would you lean on a guy's shoulder during a movie if you didn't like him? I doubt it. To respond to all the guys saying that "no guy ever just wants to be friends with a girl" this simply just isn't true. Yes, it is more difficult for guys to be "just friends" with a girl than it is vice-versa, but it is definitely possible. And it's quite easy to tell too :) One way to tell if a guy just wants to be friends is by the way he interacts with you. he won't touch you the way you're saying he touches you, he also won't talk to you the way you say this man does. This man likes you and is TRYING to take it to the next level! He's trying to confidently convey his feelings to you in a way that is blatantly obvious, but not coming on too strong. And to put the conspiracy to rest... No, he is not trying to just have sex with you. The only reason he would want to get into bed with you NOW would be to cuddle with you :) he won't try and force himself on you (at least it's very unlikely).
You responded to a guy's response earlier by saying that he already knows that you like him, and that you think he is just questioning whether or not you do actually like him. He is definitely wondering whether or not you like him, that's why he's flirting with you, but not coming off super strong. If it's true that you do actually like him. Show some interest back! I guarantee it'll make his day. Ask him if he wants to watch a movie sometime, and when you do, rest your head on his shoulder sometime during the movie. This WILL show him that you do actually like him! Also, no pressure, he does like you :)
Good Luck! (P. S. sorry for the essay)
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I have been with my partner for 10 years & I love her very much. What you describe are very familiar to the ways I show affection to my partner. A lot of people are saying he wants to sleep with you, which is likely, he is a man after all. However his actions are reminiscent of someone who has deeper feelings than just the desire to "sleep with someone".
Remember we men are very much dictated to by our sexual drives, in fact men go through more hormonal imbalances than women do in a month. So don't feel he's being sleazy or a creep if he's exhibiting signs of sexual attraction towards you. For men it's a very natural part of how our attraction towards someone is exhibited. Like I say, his actions seem more than just sexual attraction.
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As I don't know either of you. I can not say with any degree of certainty what his feelings are or are not. I can only relate to how I would show affection & what is understood about how men show affection in general.
He's doing some pretty serious flirting with you girl, of course he's interested in you romantically.
I'm one of those girls who fell in love with her best guy friend. I can't think of any better thing to happen than fall in love with your best friend. You start off so much farther ahead than just starting off dating someone, you already know what each other is like and wha he likes and so forth. You get a. Really good head start on your romantic relationship that way. Just be sure to talk about the "what ifs" before things get going, like what if you break it off will you still want to remain friends. Talk about sex, like at what point in the relationship should you have sex? Once sex enters into a relationship especially too soon it sometimes confuses things. Pull be tempted to have sex soon in the relationship, let things get established before you do, you'll be glad you did.
Umm this is BEYOND "good friends," friends just stay at a friendly pace but this guy is trying to get physical with you it seems lol. He is clearly showing signs of liking you which is VERY obvious. If he's asking how you see him compared to other guys he's trying to gauge how much you like him or if you find him attractive. If he's rubbing your back, staring into your eyes, or doing ANY sort of romantic stuff he wants something more with you either physical or for you both to date.
You are not becoming "close friends," he's trying to become MORE with you lol... Remember friends just stay at a friendly distance and don't really flirt -- he is clearly flirting with you.
This is all pretty obvious lol he isn't your friend... he's jsut looking for sex plane and simple, when a guy tries to get in the sack with you this fast don't even just lye here with him, if he tries to hug you stand on his foot to make him back off, don't get shit from a guy lol, if he carries on just get out of there asap, he is just touching you without even permission, this is disrespectful. Men are men and they will try to pretend to be your "friend" but truth is 99% of men don't want women as their friends lol sad but true.
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Well, going by what you have described, there probably can be 2 cases [POSITIVE (not possible according to me) and NEGATIVE]:
POSITIVe:
- He LOVES you, much more than a friend and as you are a good friend and don't resist him, he likes touching you etc. (but obvious)
- BUT here, if this is the case, he should tell you that he does LOVE you and would have asked for your response on this (WHY? coz u have already been frank and open to him and hence ther eshould not be any hesitation from his end).
NEGATIVE:
-- The way you described the touchy things he does, gives me an intuition that he merely wants to be physical with you and as you haven't interrupted him in any manner as of yet, his actions of HUGGING, running his hand down upto your WAIST etc. are elevating day by day in the anticipation that you would give up one day as you might get TURNED ON and hence...
-- That day when he was playing up with your hair, brushing ur face etc. actually gives me a VERY STRONG intuition that he wanted to lay with you right there and then - IF YOU COULD HAVE RECIPROCATED ACCORDINGLY. (Thank GOD! you didn't)
I'm Sorry If was too harsh or something like that but I want to make sure that you notice each and every aspect of this very thing as IT IS NOT THAT GOOD as it seems to be here. Obviously as most of the people here have given the POSITIVE answer, you might not even think about it, however, just try cutting off the TOUCHING thing by politely saying him - that you don't like it.
-- If you want to commit/love etc., see if he remains the same when you resist him from touching your bodyor giving explicit signals. Stay friends with him, spend time obviously but try watching him in details - HIS expressions when you resist etc.. You'll definitely get to know.Obviously, he's into you. The cold hard truth is, it is difficult for guys to have female "friends." Because attraction and sex and feelings are all rolled up together and it is difficult to separate them. For a guy, he has basically sent you the equivalent of a giant sign reading "HI I LIKE YOU ROMANTICALLY, DO YOU LIKE ME THAT WAY TOO?". If you like him in that way, then kiss him or something, and if you don't, tell him that you aren't into him like that. It will probably ruin your friendship and break his heart, but he will be a lot more heartbroken if you wait and tell him weeks or months from now when he makes his move.
There is 2 options here..
1) he really likes you
or
2) he just wants sex
The real trick is that his "moves" would be the same for both instances. Guys who only want to hook up are going to tell you and do things that they think you want to hear. They will tell you that they really like you and how pretty you are etc.. just like what he would say and do if he really did like you.
There is only one way for you to find out.. You are young you are going to get burned at some point in your life.. its going to happen.. it has happened to pretty much everyone.. welcome to dating..
Now with that being said.. him taking time to become friends with you first and then try to hook up for a one night stand pretty unlikely. that is a lot of time to put in for a quick hookup.
Try dating.. and if he wants to go farther tell him you want to take it slow.. if he sticks around he probubly likes you.. if he bails then you knowHe's just a weirdo, probably has good intentions but I don't see him wanting to get in bed with you at all.
he would most likely want some comfort if I had to guess. -shrugs- I was sorta like this when I was 13 years old but that was Years ago.
He seems friendly to me, maybe teach him another way to express himself towards you?
Long things are enjoyable ;) haha, Oh. I probably shouldn't say this, people might think weird of me.
( WAY TO SET THE EXAMPLE ) ... aaaaaand I'm gone~. #southparkLets once again explain this to women...
MEN NEVER WANT TO JUST BE FRIENDS.. EVER...
only women look at a guy and think "oh he would be a great friend... yada yada..."
The only reason a guy would be friends would be to stay on your radar. This way maybe your both in a situation where your both single and boom he is in... or at least a BJ or something.
so yes he wants more.I'll be straight and down the the point with you. You two friends. Yes. That can happen. But he wants more than just friendship. You can see it. Reading this i got to the point where it said he was rubing your back and stuff. If it was just your upper back and maybe the middle. Then he likes you. If he started rubbing your lower back near you butt. Then it's time for you to tell him to stop because he just wants to do it with you. Tell me if you think I helped.(:!
I didn't even read the whole thread. I've said it many times that there is no such thing as 'friendship' between girls and guys. This is just a fantasy girls have. Most guys realise it can't be true. Are you convinced now that he fell for you? Do you have sex? If not, make the offer. You'll see how quick he'll be ready to shove in you.
He's really into you but doesn't have the courage to tell you. Tell him that your friend is setting you up on a blind date and see his reaction. If he's inquisitive about who they're setting you up with - he's into you. This may also push him to ask you out. Note: once your out of the friend zone and then it doesn't work out; you will most likely lose your partner and your friend. Good luck!
He reaaally liiiikes you heee waaants tooo hoooold yooou he waaaants to kiiiiissss yoouuuu hee waants to loooooovvveee yooouuuu xD
Yeah he definitely wants to take it to the next level. I mean you guys have never had sex so it could just be a curiosity thing but if it is that he wants to be in a relationship with you then if you want dont be afraid to explore that. It could be fun dating a friend.
he is attracted to you but maybe he doesn't want to put himself out there for you to reject him and maybe you dont want to get rejected either so when he shows interest you should too.
In my opinion as a guy, he is beginning to fall in love with you the more time he spends with you, which isn't bad if the feelings are mutual, but can be catastrophic for the friendship if the feelings are not mutual. It maybe a good idea to have a good talk about the situation and clear up any misconceptions.
I would say he's developing a crush for you at least. He seems to be doing the whole 'overly nice' thing and trying to make more body contact than you would normally have.
Oh Gosh.. how could u be confused. . he is hitting all over u.. he likes u dude!! If u like him, reciprocate!!
Agree with the consensus here, he's clearly interested in getting out of the friend zone. Guy wants sex, maybe a relationship also but... Gotta start somewhere.
i think this could turn into a beautifull love story
clearly he desires and also admires you on the speritaly side
i think this could work out for you guys"Then he said that he likes spending time with me and asked if I wanted to hang out for awhile. Clearly that's being a good friend." Oh, honey.
OMG its pretty clear that he wants to take the friendship to the next level & make U his GirlFriend. He has give U every clue he could to tell U he wants to the two of U to b e more than just friends Silly Girl.
Frndships lead to relationships... if you see him as a frnd tell him to stop it if you can dig your feelings for him ask him out on a date!
he likes u and his semi passive aggressive but still obvious attempts show that he's scared if u like him back- kiss him and everything will work out -- good luck!!
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