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This guy is unlike any other. I've been having dreams almost every night about me and this guy I know having sex. He used to like me and showed interest, but I was dumb and thought he was a creep. We only talked over social media because I have a bad history with his friends. In real life he gets really shy, turns red and tries to avoid me. I believe this is because he's never had a real girlfriend. I've never had a real boyfriend either. I tried to ask him to hang out and he was all for it, but then his friends convinced him not to go and we had to call it off. I think I might like him and I really want to hang out and get to know him better to be sure. Also, these dreams are making me really want to get sexual with him, but we are both virgins and his best friend was making him insecure about it. After he called off our meeting, we sort of argued because I was hurt by how he was acting, but it didn't end on a terribly bad note. The last time we've talked was a couple months ago, but I see him around, still awkward. He's not the type of guy to want to just hook up. He acts as if he's still afraid of girls because he never hangs out with any of them, yet he shows interest in only a select few, me being one. I miss our conversations and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should initiate anything or just move on. Our conversations were always intelligent, not very flirty. We both are amateurs at talking to the other sex and I just need some advice on what to do or talk about. He's the only guy in my life that I'd consider going out with because he was really smart and could hold a good conversation. When I have these random dreams about him, they are always pleasant and loving, they are never rough or hurtful. He also didn't tell his friends he was talking to me online, until I made the mistake of mentioning it to a mutual friend. Then our plans got messed up and here I am. He's a year older than me. I even get jealous and nervous about him. LEAVE AN OPINION!!

Good points..
Says he loves you.
Nicest.. Kindest guy you have ever met.
Loving towards everyone.
Running around doing everyone's work selflessly.
Never gets angry or annoyed
Won't cheat on you.
Intelligent. good at studies

Bad points...
Is not good looking.. Over weight.
Boring. Not fun to hangout with.
Socially awkward. Can't hold a proper conversation
Doesn't speak properly. What he says doesn't make sense
Doesn't know much about sex. Inexperienced
Cracks lame jokes a lot.
You don't feel the buzz when you're around him.

So what do you say?
Please do include a reason for your answer.

psychologists say that men need to feel they earned the chance to be with a woman, that they value her more if they have to put an effort on conquering her while they lose interest if a woman is visibly interested and makes the first move.

do you guys feel this way? if you have to chose between two women, both intelligent and attractive: one that challenges you and doesn't give in easily (she makes you wonder whether she is interested in you or not, she does not clearly initiate, only throws in a bit of flirting from time to time etc.), and one that shows visible interest (initiating conversation, sitting next to you, touching you, laughing at all your jokes etc.), which one do you feel more attracted to/ interested in?