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I know what some are going to say and I just want to say one thing whether you like it or not: If you intend on marrying and spending the rest of your life with someone, you NEED to be open and honest with him, even on the most personal things, it can't be the ideal relationship when you keep these things from each other.

A healthy relationship is focused on you and your partner and not giving a damn what other people think. But let's face it, most people worry about their reputation and having an ideal partner can be a reflection of your value and desirability.

Stereotypes single women face (gets worse as they age):

- too neurotic
- too feminist
- lacking feminine wiles
- doomed to be a childless spinster from the ovaries drying up
- selfish

Stereotypes single men face

- socially awkward
- creepy
- loserish
- gay (this is a bigger insult to straight guys than most women know)
- immature

I feel like both single men and women sometimes feel driven to dating to avoid these stereotypes. Admittedly I stayed in two long-term relationships because I noticed more respect among my colleagues, family and friends that I was seeing somebody. I was thrilled to change my FB status to taken. The most disgusting result is I noticed LOTS more attention from other women. I fucking hate that, because I'm loyal and was wondering where the hell these women were when I was single and lonely.

I'm currently single right now after many frustrating, money wasting, time wasting, effort wasting and heart wasting dates. But I do have friends with benefits going on. I do still get laid.

But it dawned on me a month ago the biggest motivator I had to keep dating was because I am sick of people judging me. My family is the worst, but my friends and colleagues have in the past too. Fuck what they think.