He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Should I stay?

Question

I met a guy on Bumble a few weeks ago. We seem to hit it off after a few days and we've gone on a few dates. We've also been intimate.
Overall he seems to be ideal. Funny, smart, attractive, good in bed, the whole nine yards.

Last night I was planning to add his social but when I found his Facebook I discovered he has had a girlfriend for the past year.
I confronted him about it and he claims it's been an on/off thing and it was more complicated than I thought. Said he's been "single" during our time together but as of 3 days ago he's back with her. He also said it was a bad relationship and it's difficult for him to just walk away.
He was very upfront with all my questions and seemingly honest. Regardless of all this, I'm still interested in him. However I don't want to be a home wrecker.

He's offered me space to help me collect myself and I just don't know how to move forward. He claims he's already expressed to her how unhappy he was in the relationship and that he plans to be officially split from her within a month.

What should I do? Should I wait for him to be single or should I dial back out contact until he is? Or leave out all together?

GingerGuy · Accepted Answer

Leave and move on. I say that because what really concerns me is it's been "on and off". He should have NEVER been on bumble to begin with. It's good he's being honest, but he's bringing a whole bunch of baggage with him, that isn't just going to go away anytime soon. Even if he leaves her within a month like he plans, it's going to be a long time after that before "it's over" completely I think. It's not a good place to start a new relationship that's for sure. If you really like him, the most I'd do is just remain friends until this mess is over. He's not ready to date ANYONE, and isn't going to be anytime soon.

usama95 · Accepted Answer

The Law of Attraction - What we think we become "Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. Fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you.

loveArt1983 · Accepted Answer

Oh jeez, must be filling her I had go work late at night... you don't want to be his excuse... you want be with someone who will be there for you and fill you with love and happiness no sneaking around.
Maybe just check who his catch is and verify for yourself... if his catch 21 is lie, see if your blindly happy move maybe she should be informed he real cad. If she already knows and feels he must be given second chance or doesn't know about it then you both can become friends. He probably has third person on wheel somewhere.

x_Pretty_x · Accepted Answer

100% move on girl. This guy is trouble and your only gonna get hurt in the end. He shouldve ended it with her completely before doing anything with you. I have a feeling he knew very well he would get back with her so that was a HUGE no no, on his part. Unfortunately you got hurt in the process. I usually suggest to everyone with relationships problems like this, to watch Matthew Hussey on YouTube. he's so incredibly smart and gives u tips on how to deal with men like this. Best of luck to you

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You want to become the next girlfriend that he cheats on?

chunlilovesvega · Answer

a man can be attracted to multiple women at once. you can't call someone a cheater just because he likes different women with different qualities. you can't force anyone into monogamy, if you really love a man you just feel happy and lucky for the time he spends with you, it's your time together and it has nothing to do with anyone or anything else. it's normal to have feelings for more than one person at a time. just accept it.

winterfox10 · Answer

Honestly, you should leave and move on, but you should know that it isn't home wrecking if they aren't married. Look... I don't mean to sound like an asshole here, but it's not your fault if they can't hold their shit together. I'm sick of people acting like the other man/woman is the guilty party; the other man/woman wouldn't have existed if the relationship was so fine and dandy.

SongBird3 · Answer

Sweetie he's not being honest with you or her. If he was SO unhappy, her would have left her, not cheat.
If you get with him he's gonna cheat on you too. I would expose him to the girlfriend and leave him.

Quizlet · Answer

Just move on. He is : a player or a cheater or both. There are nothing good in such relationship

djmzes · Answer

He cheated and u r part of it

Anonymous · Answer

He's a player, he cheated her & he's probably gonna do same with you, the proof that he's a player is that he's too good at handling this game, & greatest of all, he's charming enough like one to make you madly attracted to himself!

LegateLanius · Answer

He betrayed her, he's going to betray you. End it asap.

Vanessa_01 · Answer

so when the hell was he gonna tell you about it then? what a "honest" guy.. right?

Paris13 · Answer

It is Going to be a Full Circle Problem Pattern Problem of Off and On. Too soon for Him to even Have met you Yet. They have Not Moved on just YET from One another Here, dear. xxoo

genericname85 · Answer

sure. stay if you wanna be the next one who's cheated.

giovannimontolivo · Answer

That would make you an accomplice to the crime/a massive cunt. Tell his girlfriend if you want to go to heaven.

michymouse · Answer

If he wasn’t loyal to her, he ain’t gonna he loyal to you Like girls, if they talk shit about someone to you, they are talking shit about you

MasterKey18 · Answer

On and off deal? This is very complicated and I would not touch it with a ten foot pole and neither should you.

The_FallenOne · Answer

Depends. Do you want to stay with someone who will eventually cheat on you with someone else?

Guanfei · Answer

Now that you know, you can't stay. Also, he probably just wanted to fuck you, so in any case, he won't accept you.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you like him so much to risk being the next girlfriend he might cheat on?

stormbreaker06 · Answer

you girls love a man that goes for what he wants... you'll stay and then expect him to be loyal...

Chinguwo · Answer

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. You love him right Man of wisdon

jamesdreedII · Answer

He should have been up front with u in the first place if he will do this 2 her he will do it 2 u

Factshurt90 · Answer

he dragged you into a raggedy situation. leave.

boggboss · Answer

Don't be played for a fool

Eryxx · Answer

Leave duh

Mexicoman101 · Answer

That would be a bad move.

MementoMori_ · Answer

Keep him... what's wrong with a fuckbuddy?

ivanhunterjo · Answer

get out fast. Nothing good can come out of it

anametouse · Answer

HAHAHAHAAHAH. wow yeah leave he's playing you hard

ChloeStarfire · Answer

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Move on

jacquesvol · Answer

He might cheat on you too.

Sparda20xx · Answer

If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you.

MisterAnon69 · Answer

If you like him stay, but now you know the risks.

Riichy · Answer

He may have real feelings for you

RIVERTAY888 · Answer

leave move on

IsThatAPanda1760973 · Answer

He’s going to cheat

WelshBoy6491 · Answer

Watch what happens

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