I helped a guy cheat on his girlfriend, now I feel guilty. Should I apologize?

[Anonymous]

I ran into a semi-guy friend who I've always had a little crush on but we don't know each other that well. So, we were at the bars and I was drinking, and I saw him there and we started dancing, before I knew it we were back in his bedroom. We didn't have sex but definitely hooked up. So, the next night I texted him, and we did that again. He broke up with his girlfriend of 2 1/2 years the next day. They were really in love... Since then, we haven't talked much, I have made efforts to see him on weekends but he's either gone or not answering his phone (not good). His facebook statuses are lyrics to songs about breakups...so basically I am feeling a little guilty for helping him cheat. I kinda like him though. Should I apologize to him? Or just ignore him. I really don't want to ignore him though because I am still attracted to him. I'm not sure what I should do, or if apologizing would make things even more awkward. What do I do?

[ally_lucie]

Hey girly!

I personally think that, considering he has just gotten out of a relationship- That he wouldn't be emotionally fit for something like that, this soon. He needs time to come to terms with the break up, and accept it.
I know that your average male will not turn down an offer of sexual activity or what have you, and I don't image he would either, but it may leave him even more damaged then he is now.

I would say give him some time and space to heal. He seems to have cared for this girl very much, and it has obviously impacted him in a negative respect, and thus moving right into the field while he is fresh off the bench doesn't seem to be the greatest of ideas.

Let him come to you. He'll come to you when he's ready for something like that. Putting the offer out there right away isn't a good idea. I would wait about a month, and check up on him (via facebook, etcetera), and see where he's at emotionally. If he seems to be alright, or in the process of getting back to normal, send him a friendly message and get the offer out there. If he's ready, there's no way he'll pass it up!

I hope that helps you, sweetie!

[allie604]

Well, I probably wouldn't do that, because I know how hard break ups are, and I wouldn't want to get in the middle of it. Imagine how his newly ex-girlfriend would feel/react if she found out!
Hes obviously not going to be over her either, I mean, a 2 1/2 year relationship can do a lot to you, and they were obviously in love.

But then again, most newly single people love the rebound.. it helps sometimes.
I'd day just wait til you guys hang out next, see if he makes the move.
Or, if your really desperate, just ask him.

[thelittlethings]

Just let it go. If he is going to cheat on his girlfriend with you then he will cheat on you with someone else. That's not a way to start a relationship. Whether you're attracted or not it can only end badly. And I am sure he is hurting from messing up with his girl. You are probably the last person he wants to see or talk to. Even though he is the one who messed up I am sure he partially blames you.

[Anonymous]

I think that the best thing you can do is stay away and move on.

It was a terrible thing which you done and you have probably made him feel bad and not want anything to do with you.

Delete him from your face book, delete his number and stop all contact. Get on with your life and make sure you hook up with someone who is single next time.

Think about how you would feel if someone cheated on you or if someone convinced you in to cheating. I just hope you have learned your lesson.