His phones been off for 3 hours does this mean he’s sleeping around?

[xolaurenxx]

I’m with this guy and we live together. We only moved in recently around 3 weeks ago so everything of his is at mine, everything. There’s literally nothing at his moms house except his bed. We also have a child on the way. I’m 22 he’s 26. His phone has been off now for 3 hours?

I’ve called twice and it’s not gone through, I can’t help but think this means he’s cheating? When I was early on pregnant and he was stressed he was sleeping with other women it still hurts me. His phone would be off at those times sometimes too with no explanation. It makes me feel worse now we live together because it’s my name and I bought the house and he can go and easily deceive me.

I know worrying will get me no where but I can’t help but worry. The thing is he hasn’t asked me to be his GIRLFRIEND officially, I mean I guess now a days a lot of people don’t ask and it just naturally happens but I don’t even know if there’s a title.

I've seen movies and i know that men can live with someone and have a baby and still go out and sleep around so it scares me.

[lightbulb27]

Curious... why does that scare you... just interested in your psychology. I think I know but lets hear it.

I'm sorry to hear this, this is quite a difficult situation with an immature man child.

To think this guy has one kid on the way... can't own up to the responsibilities and added stress, so he's going out possibly making more kids with other women... we'll... I've heard this story before. Very frustrating, these guys need beaten into submission by other men, but unfortunately, women seem to reward them with the greatest of gifts.

Need to talk to him about what the situation is, agreement, communication. his phone needs to be available for you to see, what is his commitment.

Honestly, probably need a therapist, a priest, a financial planner, accountant and a lot of other things.

I wish you the best. important to have father there in kids life, but will take work to finish raising the man child to be a man when his momma didn't get the job done. I can only guess his father wasn't there... and he's repeating the process.

[xolaurenxx]

Yes his father was not there. Although he has done a lot for our son and bought him a few things, obviously I’ve bought most but he has contributed a lot. It frustrates me his phone is off as we literally live together. I constantly think he must be with another woman because everything of his is at mine so I don’t know what else he’d be doing apart from working

[lightbulb27]

so you have a son with him and another on the way?
It's not hard to seek out the patterns of behavior. I've seen this before. Boys without fathers are wounded kids. Mom not strong enough to discipline him, so he's going around banging chicks... no offense. He's just doing what he was proammged to do... no fault of his own. It's an evil wicked natural world.
So the solution in my book... we'll... there is one or more. He has to see the issue, emotionally submit, and then do the work to change.

Else... you are going to suffer trying to manage him.
Lets not forget... you said yes to him more than once, and so did other females apparently. you all need smacked in the head as well. So find God and start fixing yourselves. your kids gonna need it.

you didn't ansewr my questions... "the fear is that you won't have the support, the child won't have their father and you'll both suffer". Is that right? Because historically, that is reality. Sometimes it works out... some famous athelets and even presidents had single moms.

[xolaurenxx]

My bad for the misunderstanding no we only have one on the way which is the boy who’s due November. Yeah it’s just I do everything for him and let him live in my home I paid for and I feel like he’s not even committed and sleeps around, I have no proof of this but I don’t know why else his phone would be off. And at the moment he does support me pays for things but apart of me knows he will probably get very stressed out when our son is here and not be able to handle it. I also do have feelings for him and love him but I feel like I’m suffering not being together and I don’t want to suffer and cause my child to suffer

[lightbulb27]

ps I'm sorry to hear of your pain and the stress. What he's doing is not right and does need to be corrected. he needs to grow up, take responsibliity, be the right man to you and the children he's made.
However, that, may be a lot of work and you need to realize that. For him and for you. a process. that's what I'm saying.

[Anonymous]

If he hasn't officially asked you to be his girlfriend, I'm not sure if it is considered cheating as there has been no status established.

When the baby comes, you both will get stressed. Remember you are going to be sleep deprived. There will be times when your baby may be crying and you have absolutely no idea what is wrong.

Arr you sure he hasn't been involved in an accident or that his phone hasn't actually died.

Right now you need to focus on you and the baby. That baby is your priority

[sheikalana]

Could be a number of reasons. His battery died and he doesn't have a charger nearby. His battery died and he hasn't woken up. He switched off his phone and forgot to switch it back on. Etc etc etc

[shades777]

sure or his phone is dead