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Using an Old 70s' term for Sex = Hanky Panky.

So I have two co-workers a guy and gal that are always texting each other. When they are at the office during business hours they text "work related" stuff rather than email each other. They both email the rest of the staff with work topics. They are also texting each other after hours with "work related" things. All these texts are on their personal cell phones not company cell phones, they aren't texting any other employees during or after business hours. Their texts in the evening always start out with a frivolous work question that could wait until they see each other in the office then they continue texting for 3-4 hours on many different things but not work topics then they end with goodnight sweet dreams xoxo. Then they wake up between 5-6 AM and text Good Morning can't wait to see you at work today. I discovered this because I sat at her desk and she had the texts open and her phone doesn't lock. So I asked her about it she swears nothing is going on. I asked him about it and he was stunned and hesitated when I asked if he and Brittany had a thing going on then denied it as well. I don't believe either of them, maybe their still in denial... Would you say there's some Office Hanky Panky going on? I know you're thinking why are you all up in their business, well it's my Private Practice and he's a Manager she's a Receptionist. If I don't take care of business and things go wrong its my name and Professional reputation on the line!!

So, I started chatting with a guy. Everything was going well we were getting a bit closer. We talked about sex a lot, more than I'd usually speak with someone I just started talking to. And then he disappeared. For more than a week. Just zero communication. Then he popped back up and I was very hesitant and he convinced me something was wrong with his phone and he had to have it fixed or something. So I said that's a red flag but continued chatting with him.

As he seemed to be interested in me I laid it out flat that there's a guy in my life who I had feelings for and I was trying to distance my feelings since I knew for sure that the guy liked me and wanted me but wasn't capable of loving me or us having a serious relationship (due to his next level work ethic). I told him I honestly don't know what would happen around that guy since my feelings seemed to destroy logic whenever we were in that position where I should say no and tell him to leave me alone. But improvements were happening though. He told me that was fine, he understood I was lonely blah blah blah. Then we started getting to know each other better and once while we were chatting he asked to see a pic of my undies... so I said no ofc. Then boom! Same thing happened again. Disappears for weeeeks.

He's back now and I just don't trust his motives. I always question if he's just being in-genuine. But he is a really nice guy, similar though patterns, and we have good chemistry. But I'm on the fence. The second time he said he left (basically ghosted me) because he was sad about how the other person I had feelings for was close to me and he was far away. The thing is, I have zero feelings for the person I was getting over now, and totally not lured by his charm anymore. But I still don't trust this disappear guy. Tell me your thoughts