Charm School: Lesson One
Chivalry might not be all the way dead, but it sure is making room for SHE-VALRY. Girls today have a problem interacting or (flirting) with boys. These girls are so nervous and unsure of themselves that they might miss their chance to interact with a guy altogether. He's already left by the time they get the nerve built up to approach him. Time to learn the art of SHE-VALRY. Learn how to successfully approach a man without being a nervous wreck.
Approaching The Guy
Being confident around the opposite sex even charming isn't easy, it takes thought, practice, and effort ladies. Let’s set the scene: You’re out with your girls at a bar. A guy catches your eye, but he’s not making a move towards you or showing interest. What do you do? Well you actually have several options.
Firstly, you could go the bold route. Walk up to him, say hi, and start a conversation. It could be something simple like, “Hi, my name is ____. I saw you from across the bar and I wanted to come introduce myself.” You can start a conversation from there and see if you are truly interested in getting to know him, or if he's just fun to look from a distance but not really your type.
Ask For Help
A sure fire way to approach him without being direct is to ask him for help in some way. You can ask him to help you with your drink or borrow a light if you’re smoking, where the bathroom is, I've even asked for directions before. This helps break the ice and you can initiate a conversation from there with him. Ask him anything a man's favorite subject ALWAYS is to talk about himself.
Just Sit Down
Sit next to the guy you like and strike a conversation with a simple question like, “What are the best drinks to try here?” Ask context appropriate questions if you don’t want to come off as too flirty. Your body language is key too once you have sit beside him. Cross your legs towards him not away and be sure to smile while making eye contact at him. KEEP YOUR PHONE DOWN and try to avoid awkward quiet moments.
Come With Compliments
Anyone loves being complemented including men. Say something like, " I'm sorry if I was staring at you from over there, but you are so handsome I just couldn't help myself. Even say something like, " Wow what sport do you play? You're in such good shape I assumed you were some type of athlete." Ask where he went to school and then say," Wow you must be really smart."
This one is for the bold ones. This is more the (wowgirl) confident girl approach. Buy him a drink or even a soda. Be sure to set at the end of the bar or table so you are more accessible to him and so he can see you clearly. Once the bartender tells him you have bought him a drink and he looks up to see you stand-up, smile, look at your body up and down (this shows an offering) and begin walking over to him.
Dont Wait For Him To Approach You!!!
You might be waiting for ever..! Some women expect the man to approach them all the time. In a perfect world the man would always come to the female. In the real world sorry, but it doesn't always happen that way.
Some guys are shy and some are just clueless. He might not even notice you at all, or all the signs you're trying to give him that you are interested in him. So be confident, be proud, and please don't be shy. Remember charm, confidence, and technique " SHE-VALRY" is everything when it comes to approaching guys.
Thanks for Reading Everyone...