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There’s a shy guy at work that only works part time because he’s also going to school. He doesn’t really talk to many people at work. We both give each other mixed signals. I overheard him about a month ago telling another guy at work that he likes me (I think) and they were both looking at me. He holds doors open for me even when I’m far away, he helps take my section at work but not other girls, he’s teased me in the past when other people weren’t around, he goes out of his way to get things for me, he sits near me at lunch (1 seat apart) or hell sometimes he will take my seat and I’ll go that was my seat and he will start laughing and go oh I thought it was mine. When it’s the two of us talking it’s kinda awkward lol. Oh yesterday I teased him because he went to grab a pile of plates to stack and I grabbed them from him and said what’s the password and his face got as red as a tomato and then I gave him the stack. He also made a mess all over the counter and sink with bubbles and I was like laughing and was like do you always make a mess doing this and he’s like yes. But sometimes we will avoid each other and not even look at each other or walk fast away from each other or act super nervous around each other. Or I don't know lol. It’s off and on. He’s never had a girlfriend either or really showed an interest in girls according to my coworkers and they are surprised. They thought he was an asexual weirdo. I tried messaging him on twitter last night but he hasn’t been online. I don’t know what to make of this. He also suggested that I should come into work on Sunday even though I’m not scheduled (he is) and work won’t pay me overtime. Sometimes we leave work together and sometimes he leaves before me. We’ve been doing this since September. He hasn’t asked me out ( probably because he’s super busy with school or scared too or idk) weird. Hmm. I don't know

My boyfriend once told me he was going to kill me and throw me in the Forrest.

Like 2 or 3 years ago...

I got scared and we stopped talking for a long while.

After some time we talked again and he told me he had said those words because he thought he was not good for me and wanted to scare me so that I could get away from him...

now 3 days ago...
we were talking and I asked a question about a girl...

.. He assumed I was “jealous”, which I wasn’t... but I gave him that impression for asking a question and he got mad... saying that I’m too jealous and that I now made his happy mood into a “mean” mood... and then said he wanted to ‘put my naked body on a cactus plant’. 🌵... 😐.. that’s fucking scary!

I stopped talking to him...

and now he calls me crazy saying I’m crazy because I believe that it’s true..
he says I’m crazy to believe that he will go to a store to buy a cactus plant for the sole purpose of putting my naked body on it...

sure, after he puts it like that, he makes me seem like the crazy one...
but im not saying he’ll go buy this plant to do this... I’m saying I’m scared of him for him saying these words...

it implies he can do violent awful things when he’s mad... not precisely going to buy a plant to do what he said, but simply the fact that this nonsense argument provoked him to say these things at all is scary..

what do do you guys think?
I feel I love him but I’m scared...

he didn’t do anything and hasn’t done anything..
but just the fact he said these things scare the heck out of me... like what will happen if one day we get into a real argument... if he gets mad about things I don’t even consider arguments... I don't know how he will react to real arguments..

I don’t want to end up on a dateline or 48hours episode..

am I Overreacting?