Hello everyone! I will be writing this MyTake especially for all of you who feel misunderstood, or who are trying to understand what is going through the mind of someone who is being misunderstood. My objective by this Take is to advise, support and explain. Hope you guys enjoy!
Let me just begin with a slight preface. I am a small- town girl. Shy, isolated, naive and young. I was never good at making friends. The friends I had came to me, but they were not strong friends as they liked to step over me, make me become someone I was not, and they made me feel like the bad person. So, I always lost every friendship I had. Now as I am a senior in high school, I am beginning to get used to it. Teenage life was never suitable for me.
1. You are lonely.
That is probably the biggest part of being misunderstood. People leave you alone because they can`t quite get into your head. This is something I feel every teenager or young kid wants with someone else. They want to know your secrets, your deepest desires and every brain cell worth of thought. If they can`t know everything about you, you are a stranger to them. I was always a private, quiet person, and I think people were and are scared of me.
2. You have the loudest mind and you observe everything.
People shut you up because they make you feel your voice is less worth than theirs. I made the stupid decision by getting involved in a student committee at school, and no one in the group is considering my contributions. Since I cannot express myself verbally, I have much more time to consider my choice of words. I have so much to say, so many ideas to share. I just can`t, because they wouldn`t be interesting to anyone.
When it comes to observations, you find yourself to be more conscious of your surroundings. You see people in different situations, how they act and how you could do it differently. You feel like you know people before you even talk to them.
3. You keep thinking something is terribly wrong with you.
Do I act like an asshole? Do I talk too much? Do I express narcissistic traits? Am I a sociopath? These thoughts race my mind because they seem to be the only explanations to why people are ignoring me. If they are ignoring me, it has to mean it`s my problem. It kind of fucks you up since you go around thinking you have a mental disability.
4. You (prefer to) avoid the social stuff.
... which really sucks for me because I used to be social. I loved to be with a bunch of people and having fun. Now I feel like nobody cares, and I actually enjoy being alone or with my family binge-watching a series or playing board games. I don`t have to prove something of myself, nor do I have to make an effort to talk to a bunch of people and befriend them.
5. You desperately want to be seen, but at the same time, you like the feeling that you are invisible.
When you are misunderstood, people treat you like you are invisible. It feels good since you don`t have to do anything about it. They don`t care about anything you do. At least there is no pressure because of that. If everyone sees and notices you, the attention can be exhausting sometimes.
6. People annoy you more than usual.
Ever feel like you could roll your eyes at those people on the bus who won`t shut up about their daughter`s newborn baby? Laughing, talking, babbling about nonsense stuff that will not matter after a while. Yeah, people annoy the shit out of you for no reason at all. You even hate it when someone starts laughing with their best friend. It feels like jealousy, and maybe it is, but it annoys you that they are laughing for no legitimate reason. Someone had a fake ass interview while speaking in a childish voice? Yeah, I`m laughing my ass off.
7. You are thinking about ways to prove people wrong.
Maybe you join a sports club, organization or do voluntary work. The misunderstood people I know love to prove themselves for what they are worth. They can`t express themselves directly in a proper way, so they speak through actions, which I totally respect.