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With everything I read on here... I'm actually really surprised at the responses in regards to trust issues. It's as if you bring up the insecurity, they'll turn into a conversation about their entitlements... telling you that they deserve privacy (which people do), and then paint you out to be insecure (which you are), or maybe even controlling when you just want to feel better.

BUT... with infidelity occurring at an over 50% rate in marriage (according to most studies I've read) , I think it's only right to alleviate your partners anxiety when they are having trust issues. It's okay to be insecure once in a while. It's okay to have trust issues once in a while. In monogamy, attraction will happen outside of your partner. Whether it's a coworker, or platonic friend. These things are bound to happen in a long term relationship, so my suggestion is to be with someone who empathizes with you when these problems come up. Someone who actually wants to help you feel better instead of attacking you for it and making you feel lesser for it.

My girlfriend and I have both experienced some trust issues with each other in the beginning considering we've both been cheated on at one point. I opened up all of my social media with her and gave her the pass-code to my phone. Granted, she didn't even look- but I wanted to let her know I had absolutely nothing to hide... and she doesn't have to worry. I genuinely wanted her to feel more relax and less anxious about the idea of committing into a long-term relationship. She wanted the same. We're both in such a better spot today. We worked through it together, and I feel as if most couples should operate in this way.

It's strange to me that the default solution on GAG to this problem is to demonize your partner and suggest to leave them. Anyone else here feel the same?

Just a basic question, in my experience my current girlfriend was talking to another guy behind my back, she was gonna go to a bar party with me for an event but I ended up not being able to go, she ended making a plan to go to a guys hotel room instead & I found out, we fought & we broke up that night & she tried to get back together again the next day, then the same guy invited her to a pre-game Christmas party & she said she was going & I told her I was uncomfortable, they showed up to the same bar together & I beat him up (wasn’t a good idea), she ended up sleeping with him that night (I know because I showed up to her house, they were both in their underpants when I showed up to her house for my clothes I’ve lent her) after the night at the bar. She tried taking me back the next day (& It’s a little gross I was with someone else & got her to answer the phone for me to say I’m busy lol) & I ended up taking her back. She being saying we weren’t together when these things happened for months but I still feel cheated on & betrayed & I don’t know what to do how to approach the situation because she doesn’t let me talk about it & says it’s a long time ago & pushed my feelings about it to the side for half a year & I’m very unhappy with her (but I’m more scared of being unhappy without her). Since the second issue happened I’ve been less committed to her & flirting with other girls & making new relationships (I have not had sex, kiss or physically cheat) because I don’t feel safe or happy in my relationship & she’s trying to tell me that me flirting with other girls is cheating though. I’m just wondering if what she did would be cheating because she says it’s not & expects me to forgive her for it but I don't know how too (& I feel more foolish by the day)?