She's using a technicality to avoid any guilt in the matter. The fact is, she was already planning to cheat on you before the "breakup", and she took you back only AFTER she fucked the guy she planned on fucking all along. She sounds like a manipulative bitch and you're better off without her.
"but I’m more scared of being unhappy without her"-- this right here is the crux of the issue. You KNOW she was disloyal, you KNOW she is treating you badly. But you won't leave her because you're afraid of being single. Well guess what, you were single when you first came into this world, and that must've worked out well enough, coz here you are, safe and sound. Trust me, you'll be happier without this toxic whore in your life. You might feel depressed initially, because she's probably a source of comfort in your life, even despite the fact she's bad for you in the long run. But once you rip that band-aid off, and embrace being single again, you'll feel a lot better in the medium to long term.
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Technically it's not cheating but it is just as disrespectful as being cheated on. It's still betrayal.
She is a hoe. Enjoy the sex while you can or dump her. Your call.
"flirting with other girls is cheating though"
I think I can see now, that she "revenge cheated" on you as a response.
It's not TECHNICALLY cheating, but it's like the Friends "We were on a break!" episode. Maybe it wasn't technically cheating, but that doesn't make it okay. It sounds like she was planning on sleeping with him even before you broke up. She might have slept with him anyway, and she might have intentionally picked the fight with you to get you to break up with her just so she could sleep with the other guy.
I was shocked when I got to the part where you said you have been with this girl for 1.5 years since this incident. For me, that would have been an absolute deal breaker. And as far as being afraid of "being unhappy without her", yes, that is probably true at first. Just like with any breakup, it will take some time to get over, but that doesn't mean you should stay together. It doesn't sound like you're very happy with her now, and it's better to be really unhappy for a short period of time than to be somewhat unhappy indefinitely.
It can if you only dump them just to sleep with other people. Either way, that can be cheating. You shouldn't have taken her back. Once you hop out like that, adios. And stay out.
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Long story short, yes. This didn't "just happen" she planned it for a while. Its just like when women say they "want a break" what they mean is "I am going to fuck this guy but I don't want you to be mad about it, because I feel like you are a better provider. I just want you to buy me stuff while I fuck other guys and you don't get upset about it." The fact she won't even let you flirt with another woman while she fucks other guys is a huge red flag. End it now Bro!
It means that you are being objectified. She reminds me of the kind of hen that cackles in her master's house and lays all her eggs in another man's coop. Best to just stop seeing such a girl because then you would become a simp enabling a slut.
no, but its stupid.. I wouldn't take them back if they treated me like that.
“We were on a break!” It’s the Ross fallacy. Technically yes, but if you don’t tell the other person about it it’s cheating.
Homey don''t play that. If we break up, we done and I don't care what she does.
No. Still pretty shady though.
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U guys are both fucked upI did NOT understand that at all. Please learn to better story tell.
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