my ex has been in a serious relationship with a woman for two years and he plans on marrying her. I am happy for them and want the best for them, but when he cheats on her with me every other weekend and then tries to tell me that he loves her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her, it makes me sick. so I finally told her. I couldn't let him lie anymore. I told him that I was going to talk to her, but he did not take it very well at all. now that I've told her, I'm afraid that if she doesn't take it well and dumps him then he will literally KILL me or hurt me otherwise. he knows where I live, what kind of car I drive, and I am really afraid he will do something crazy. he is not usually the violent type, but I have seen him snap and get angry before and he has invested his whole life into this relationship with her. I know it wasn't my place to tell her, but I couldn't take it anymore. I tried to get him out of my life, I tell him NO MORE SEX, and to go away, but he won't leave me alone. he just can't stop cheating on his girlfriend and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only woman he cheats on her with. so I did the right thing, but now I'm scared about the consequences. Do you think he will hurt me? What is the worst you think he can do? Guys, what would YOU do?
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Trying to place myself into that guy's mind and lack of morals, getting away with stuff so close to being found out, self-serving passion, deal making - a one way street. What would he do is the question, not judging the events that led to this dilemma ...
He would first call you a liar as a cover, then jealous, then whatever it would take to pull the wool over his fiancée/your Boyfriend (call her Deb) eyes. If this works, then he has nothing further to do AND may continue (after a brief calming spell) to f*** you at will, even in the same honeymoon hotel.
If that doesn't work, then he must remove you from his world while he suffers the consequences (including no sex - so grumpy he becomes) and rehabilitation (oooh, now he's really steamed), then comes being disrespected as the turd he is - he's boiling mad now and wanting for blood.
Certainly in the latter case, but applies to both scenarios - you should leave town immediately.
You are not safe. Even if you don't smell fire today, soon you will be ambushed & burned beyond your nightmares. This pattern suggests yet another candidate for prison, one that does not fear it, so often has he avoided being found out.