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I’ve been with this guy for around 5 months and officially together for almost 3. I thought we had a great relationship and he clearly loves and adores me and does everything he can to provide and protect me, however one particular issue had come up twice. We spoke extensively about our sexual pasts because we believe we have a right to know what kind of person we’re getting into relations with, and there was a story he told me which didn’t add up. He got annoyed at me and attempted to gaslight me and make me feel crazy when I expressed my suspicions but it ended up coming out that he was telling me lies because he slipped up in his story.

I take gaslighting very seriously and was going to dump him, so I moved out for a few days. He extensively apologised and promised to be truthful and I decided to forgive him despite this red flag. I asked him a few times if there is anything else in his past that he thinks he should tell me and he strongly said no. A month after this whole incident I decided to go through his laptop which he is usually extremely protective over and I found a bunch of bookmarks of escorts near our area and their websites and various chat rooms.

This is very worrying to me because I am aware that he had an addiction to escorts and porn in the past but he gave me the impression this was long over. It is also highly possible that he could be cheating on me. I also feel betrayed because I specifically asked him if he had been meeting escorts recently when we first started seeing each other and he denied it. To me these findings mean he is either a cheater or a liar. He is at work right now and doesn’t know I have seen all of this but I am wondering if I should dump him tonight or not?

I am 30 and my boyfriend is 25. I am his first proper girlfriend. We met just for a coffee date which went well. It was my bday a few days later and he sent me some expensive flowers which I was surprised about because we only just met. He still lived at home but came to see me the day after and we just chatted outside. He was very nervous and shaky holding my hand.

now we have been dating four months and had our first weekend away together and I’m wondering if this is normal in what I’ve recognised in the past four months:-

1. he said he loved me very quickly, and that he knew straight away.
2. He started to want to be with me all the time. He turned up at my house twice unannounced just to bring me coffee because I was working late
3. he proclaims his love quite a lot but says that he feels lost without me and just sits up in his room, he said his parents have commented on this
4. if I do something he will go and do the same thing or with buy what I have bought a lot.
5. He spends a lot of money on me for Valentine’s etc almost excessive for the amount of time we’ve been dating
6. he doesn’t bother with his friends anymore and says he doesn’t need anyone but me because they are all unreliable
7. he doesn’t like silence and I sometimes get the impression he needs a drink for confidence
8. when we were on holiday this weekend he drove dangerously in some quiet areas that could have resulted in us crashing
9. He says he has plans for us but it’s like he’s already decided these in his head and doesn’t consult me
10. I have spoken about past dating experiences. He then says about his male friends that he works with wanting to go on lads holidays and how many girls they sleep with but that he doesn’t want to do this because he thinks it’s not nice
11. saw on Facebook that he has had social anxiety in the past