Disclaimer: I am not encouraging anyone to keep secrets from their family without having very valid reasons for doing so.
I am simply trying to tell you how you can go about having a secret relationship if you're not ready to tell your family yet.
Two days ago, my secret boyfriend invited me to join him on a holiday that would take us pretty far away.
This then turned into a double date holiday with his best friend and his girlfriend. I'll include more details below in case you're interested in specifics.
I can't wait to go away for a few days and since I know that some people can't imagine lying to their family this long, I wanted to share how I'm going about this.
#1 Don't share your plans with anyone you know
Don't tell anyone what you've got planned.
I love my family, but I always knew that living on my own would mean that I won't disclose as much information to them as they may like.
I won't tell my friends about this either, mainly because they're already suspicious and I couldn't handle more criticism from them concerning my boyfriend.
I have important appointments right before I'll go, so I'l try to wrap those up, get everything handled and then we're off anyways.
#2 Make sure you have a story and an alternative story
Essentially, you always have to be prepared to tell your parents.
This does not mean that you have to tell them, it just means that you have to keep scenarios in mind where they would find out about the two of you dating.
#3 Know how to turn any situation into an advantage
No matter what you're confronted with, you need to be prepared to milk it to your advantage.
An example for this would be giving off the impression that you are doing something for yourself or others while you're really enjoying the secret company of your boyfriend.
Details on my boyfriend's best friend and his girlfriend
First off, I don't enjoy the company of my boyfriend's best friend because he's a very dirty person (doesn't even brush his teeth).
Still, he's taking his girlfriend of 2 years on holiday for the first time. I'm a little worried it'll break them up - apparently, he has very gross "bathroom habits" (direct quote) and they've never spent more than one night together, so this will be a big test for them.
His girlfriend is only coming with us to take pictures for Instagram and I'm pretty sure she thinks he'll propose or make some other big gesture. She's about as obvious a golddigger as they come, it's painful to watch.
The thing is, I already planned what I want to do with my boyfriend and I definitely won't let my boyfriend's best friend steal my ideas to impress his girlfriend.
That's why I'd prefer to be alone for a while and to only really do stuff together in the evenings, but we'll see.
Details on our secret little getaway
I don't want to reveal too much, but maybe you can guess the destination, so let's see.
The place we're going to offers a lot of different activities.
It's situated in a conservative country that is often on the news.
My boyfriend wanted to book a huge suite for the two of us and honestly, lying to my family is hard, but I'll be living the good life for a few days so it's worth it!
I can't wait to go away and am so happy to have someone this amazing by my side to do it with.