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So I've had a friend for about 5 years. we've had our differences, usually we work it out.

My "friend" has been living a train wreck of a life that she's kinda forced on herself.
I usually set aside the fact that I feel like she's made a bad decision and try to help her through it.

But for starters, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend when I was 19, three months into our relationship. We've now been together for 4 years and we JUST got engaged this past weekend.
When I told this friend that I'd had sex (she'd never done it before either), she got a little "cold". All she said was is "I just don't understand why it couldn't wait for marriage." And essentially kinda made me feel bad for not waiting.
I ignored her for a few weeks, then she messaged me about HER boyfriend was cheating on her pretty blatantly. He'd go WEEKS without even sending her a TEXT. Nothing at all. And then randomly send her pictures of some half naked woman. Just to hurt said friend. So I felt bad for her, tried to talk to her, and I told her she needed out of that relationship. I tried to put it delicately, since she was "so in love." And she then SHE stopped talking to me.
Fast forward like 2 weeks and she tells me she had sex with him so he would cheat. (He didn't stop.) Well now 3 years later, I'm engaged, have a great job, just living my best life really.
3 years later for her is, she has had a baby with her cheater boyfriend. Not married or engaged, neither of them has a job, they don't even live together. Still with their parents.

When I told her I was engaged though she just couldn't be happy. Her exact words were "well me and John could be married by now, but there's just no point since we knows left we love each other".
So admittedly I snapped and replied "well that's so great that you changed your mind after you shamed me for having sex then turned around and had a baby with a guy you don't even live with."
She Left me on read and honestly I have nothing to say to her. AITA?

Cheating is a lot of work that’s just not worth the risk of getting caught. It takes a lot of planning, a lot of covering up! The lies to the other woman. The lies to your partner. When does the pleasure turn to guilt? As soon as you orgasm and reach for the skies.
For a year and half we didn't engage in a physical relationship. There was flirting and fantasizing about each other sexually when we were apart. We shared intimate details and were into each other. We both reached out to each other because, well I don't know, I remember telling him I thought he would care. He listened. It felt like he cared. One of greatest pleasures was the anticipation of pleasure. We both admitted that when I stopped rejecting him and gave into the sexual tension. Sex was an intense high. Five hours later we agreed to have sex everyday. He left happy! I was happy and ready and anticipating the next session. That was the one and only time we had sex.
He called the next morning. He came by picked up my laundry and we made plans to meet at 8. I got caught up with dinner at my best friend's place. He text me at midnight. It was a clear message. I told him we would go our own way. He let me go. I saw him the next morning at the casino. I won $300. I was with our mutual friend that contacted me and asked me to go. He wouldn't even look at me.
I found out a week later that he lied to me from the beginning. He was in a relationship with the the woman he shared a child with. They did break up when we were together. Maybe they got back together the same day he left my house after we had sex. That's what I believe. It doesn't really matter though. She's pregnant and due in May with a boy!!! He failed to mention that! It's clear he was reacting on the defense for self preservation, no regard to my feelings. Truth came to light.
Was it worth it?
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