My sister’s boyfriend emotionally cheated on her with me? I told my sister and she doesn’t want to be with him anymore? Why is he apologizing now?

[Walamagicc]

Okay so about a month ago, me, my ex and my sister were all on a 3 way call because my ex blocked me and I needed to contact him to get my computer back. He started privately texting me and then he sent me some pictures of his dick and videos and then he asked me if I wanted sex. Also asked me if his dick was bigger than my ex? And he also asked me to send him nudes. I don't know why I didn’t send the screenshots to my sister when it very first happened but I told her all this went down in December. At first she didn’t believe me, I got a new phone a week later, gave my old phone to my aunt so I had to clear off my old phone in order for her to use it. My sister and her boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years and I have only met the guy once about a year and a half ago but he never looked at me in a sexual way so him hitting on me after a break up was even more baffling!

Okay so yesterday I texted my sister at work and sent the screenshots of something he sent me that was inappropriate to say. I’m not going to say what he said because it’s too disturbing but long story shots, he lied to my sister and said he never sexted with me. Also my sister is older that me by like 6 years and her boyfriend is like 28 and my sister thought it was creepy that her boyfriend would emotionally cheat on her with her baby sister (me) and I called her last night and she told me sorry for not believing in me at first.

And her boyfriend called at like 5 this morning but I kind of recognized his number but I of course ignored his phone call because I feel violated and I feel guilty even tho I didn’t do anything wrong. I feel guilty because me saying that cause my sister to break up with him and he still wants to be with her even tho he cheated on my sister with me and then he texted me and sent me an apology but I never opened his text message and quite frankly, I don’t want to.

Updates

+1 y

It was actually a 4 way call not 3 way

[flashgrandad]

It is your fault as well as his.
You fucked your big sisters boyfriend because he sent you dick pics and you sent back nudes.
Do you always send out nude pics?

[Walamagicc]

You clearly do not read. Nobody fucked anybody. He asked me if I wanted to and of course I said no and I don’t send nudes him any nudes. He sent me his.

[flashgrandad]

Sorry, I misread it

[Gwenhwyfar]

That is WAY more than emotionally cheating! He basically tried to rape you. You should block him and never look back.

[Walamagicc]

well all this is over text so he can’t rape me. They live in another state

[Gwenhwyfar]

Still. It’s awful what he did to you. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

[Walamagicc]

It really is. I’m just confused as to why would he cheat on her with me out of all people? Because I’m her sister, it just makes it worse, should I respond to his apology text? He was out of line

[Gwenhwyfar]

I don’t know why he picked you but it only makes it worse.

No. You can read it if you want but unless it’s so sincere and so heartfelt it literally makes you cry I’d just delete it and block his ass after you read it. You sound traumatized. Not even kidding.

[Walamagicc]

I really am. First I break up with my ex and then her boyfriend sexts me. That’s too much for me to handle. I think he did it when he did because he knew I would feel vulnerable because of the break up. He knew he was wrong too because he texted (I knew you could keep a secret) and it’s even more weird that I’m 20 and he’s almost 30

[Gwenhwyfar]

Even if you went along with the sexting (I can’t tell if you did or not from what you said) it doesn’t matter. He basically pressured you into it. It’s really gross what he did to you.

[Walamagicc]

I didn’t send him anything back. I was playing around because I thought he was just joking but I never asked him to send me anything and he was persistent and that’s why I ignored him. He did this behind my sister’s back while she was so work and

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s awful. I don't know what else to say. It was NOT your fault.

[Walamagicc]

She said she would break up with him but at the same time, I feel she will forgive him because they have so much history together. If she takes him back, I don’t think I would ever want to speak do either one of them again. Do you think she will? She said she doesn’t tolerate cheating at all

[Gwenhwyfar]

I don’t think she will. If she even thinks about it, tell her how horrible what he did made you feel.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks girl 😊

[Walamagicc]

No thank you for actually being the only helpful person. Everyone else who commented clearly didn’t read the whole things. by the way, she did break up with him and now she is realizing how toxic he truly is.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Good. I’m glad.

[Yourman89]

Did you chat with him?