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I've been with my boyfriend about 4 months. Its just been feeling recently as i got him a job really hard to get him to spend time with me as he's only interested if its me driving him to work. Dont get me wrong, he has his nice qualities - he'll pay if we go out, stayed up when my aunt was rushed into hospital just to see me off to sleep.
so he knows I've been talking to my ex (ended badly but we've made up) and just says to do what i want
well tonight i agreed to meet up with him, we caught up like old times and i haven't felt as down as i have been. And well we ended up kissing.
I felt horrible as soon as it was over. And my ex felt bad for making me feel like that so agreed it won't happen again and he won't stir with my boyfriend ( he's got a girlfriend aswell so itd get him into trouble)
but should i tell him? I mean part wants to so im honest but another part doesn't want to hurt him over a mistake just to relieve my guilt...

My ex and I are both 17. I moved away from my hometown (and him) in April. We tried long distance for a few months, but things started to get tough as he's awful with his phone and LDRs demand a lot of phone contact. We never fought the entire relationship, we would just voice our concerns and work them out accordingly. He was always wonderful like that.

One morning, after telling me he loved me, he broke up with me. It crushed me far more than I ever thought possible. He told me he was sorry, and that he hoped we could stay friends. I disregarded the offer as in genuine and guilt-driven at the time. We didn't speak for 4 months. It was the most difficult time of my life. I was crying every night, I can't even describe how painful it was (I'm a depression sufferer, and I've still never felt pain like that). I pushed myself to get out, to be with friends, etc-I really improved my life, but at the end of the day, I was still miserable without him.

I finally reached out after all that time, and we spoke about the breakup. What I didn't know is how much it hurt him, and that it was the reason he couldn't bear to talk to me because it was a reminder of "what he let go". He told me that he did not want to do it, but it's what was best at the time because other aspects of his life were suffering because he was so stressed by trying to maintain the relationship. At the time of the breakup I had no idea he felt like that. I really respect his decision after talking it through with him, I'm glad he did what was best for him (and for me at the time, even though I probably didn't realize it).

Now, we talk almost every day. He's big on the push-pull behavior- he'll text me all the time for weeks, and then disappear a bit. We talk on the phone and video chat for hours. He told me he's really glad that we can be friends and that I mean a lot to him, and that he loves me (but not in a romantic way).

The only problem is that part of me still loves him. I told him this, and he was very non-judgmental and told me that although he'd be very sad, he understands if us talking is not what's best for me. Is this a bad idea? Am I making things worse for myself by doing this?

I met my boyfriend when i was 13 at school, and was interested in him for three years (16). though we where never together at that time i still felt very attracted to his "badboy" attitude. after that i thought it was all well and dandy, but i did miss him sometimes. we didn't meet before i was 18 and he picked me up in his car one night when he was just driving around with his friends, and coincindentily i was drunk walking down my street beeing harrassed by some scary men. it really felt like it was fate when he "saved" me from those men. since then we later turned friends and the friendship developed into a relationship. i really do have a deep love for him. when he laughs, makes jokes, smiles, takes care of me, or just is i always feel like i have this deep love for him. but im afraid i never saw myself growing older with him, and i regret to say, i constantly have this feeling of guilt whenever i am with him because i dont think he is the love of my life, though i love him, and he keeps talking about many years in the future. i dont know how to explain it better than this...
so, should i break up with him, or stay?