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I want him to feel the pain I felt and I want him to stop emotionally abusing me. I feel like sleeping with someone who looks way better than him will humble him and realize he should be glad I forgave him. I know this sounds crazy but what would you do?
AND I HAVE TRIED EXPRESSING MY FEELINGS MULTIPLE TIMES BUT HE JUST GETS UPSET.

We've been together for 3 years and we both love each other a lot. I know it may seem like I don't from my actions but I do.

When I was at a conference for work, I met a man who was very forward and honest about his intentions with me. He kept making advances and I kept stopping him. Eventually I gave in. I wasn't thinking and I made a big mistake. I felt horrible after it happened and I know it was a one time thing so I decided not to tell my boyfriend. This was two weeks ago.

My boyfriend said he felt like I was being distant lately. So yesterday he planned a really lovely date. After the date we had really passionate sex. We were lying in bed post-sex and he was kissing all over my face saying how much he loved me. It was such a lovely night and it made me feel horrible about what I'd done and I ended up telling him. He was pretty shocked and he left my place after I told him.

I am the first girl he's ever been with (kiss, sex everything) and he's a romantic sort of a guy so honestly I think he will forgive me. When we met he had been rejected by a lot of girls because he's short (seriously, you should have heard the things they said to him) and he had bad self-confidence as a result. I know it's probably not the best reason to stay with someone, but I think he will stay with me, if only because he thinks he couldn't get another girl. I don't think that but I think he does. I'm just wondering how long until we will get back to normal. How long until he fully forgives me?

Why does my Ex hate me? Is it possible to be friends with your ex?

I've always wondered if it's possible to be friends with an ex. My ex was maybe my first love - real love.

I met him 4 years ago and felt like we belonged, two years later I met him again randomly while dating his friend. When his friend and I broke up, he chased me like crazy. I kept rejecting him but then I finally gave in.

We had the best relationship, we were soooo close. We had sex all the time, we talked 24/7 I could see myself marrying this man.

And then one day I found out he was sleeping with someone else. Was it all fake? But I knew it couldn't be, we were extremely close. I thought maybe he slipped up. So I forgave him.

I had serious trust issues with him, a part of me hated him but I stayed I worked through it and got over it.

Then I found out he cheated again.
So I told him it was over. He texted me periodically the day we broke up. And then I told him to stop texting me, and he just switched off. He called me a bitch, he told me that he was going to post naked pictures of me online, he kept attacking me.

I was mad at him, but I never knew he could switch so easily.

Then I felt like I did something wrong wfen though he was the one who cheated on me.

I was so heartbroken that someone I once loved so deeply was able to switch so quickly.

He then got married 3 months later -

Can someone give me clarity as a guy how do you just shut off?