Only twice in my life have I had to admit to two different girls that their boyfriend was cheating on them.
One went better than the other in terms of how I came out.
The first girl I had to tell was Natalie. I didn't know a thing about her and her boyfriend was constantly flirting with me via Facebook and then he sent me a nude pic, convincing me to meet up with him etc... I kept saying "don't you have a girlfriend?" as his Facebook status said 'in a relationship with Natalie'. His only response was "so? you're still fit and sexy"
I ended up messaging Natalie involving screenshots of the conversation without knowing how she would react. Turns out, he's cheated on her several times before and she always forgives him. She added me as a friend on Facebook and became close to her and told her that as her friend, that her boyfriend was no good for her and she should find a man who respects her and be faithful to her. She's no longer with him and we still talk. She doesn't blame me whatsoever for the infidelities.
The second girl I had to tell was a girl called Sarah. Now this is a lot more complicated as her boyfriend is my ex who I contact at least once a year for 'no strings attached' sort of thing... you can guess what. I emailed him nude pics of me and he asked for more to the point he asked when we can next meet up. It wasn't until 6 months later that I found out he had been in a relationship since Feb (I sent these emails in March). I found out who his girlfriend is and again going head first into the unknown reaction. Only this didn't go quite as planned.
The original plan was to show I am a nice person who has no intention of hurting her, so I added her via Facebook. Talked for a good 10 minutes before she blocked me out of the blue. My guess, my ex saw she added me and told her to block me. Didn't get to tell her about her boyfriend asking me for nude pics.
About a month later, she unblocked me and found the emails on her own confronting me whilst calling me a slut. My response? "You saw the emails, you know I'm not the slut here. I tried to tell you a month ago but you blocked before you could, ever wondered why your boyfriend didn't want you talking to me? Now you know. As I said before, you've seen the emails to know that your boyfriend is not completely innocent in all this!"
Okay in hindsight, I probably shouldn't have sent those nude pics but as far as I was concerned, I was sending them to a single male who wanted more. No "sorry I'm flattered but I'm with someone" response just descriptions of pics he wanted.
Still came out as the bad person in this scenario. We have both been lied to and he gets off easy. What an asshole and stupid, stupid woman.
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